來源：FACEBOOK
作者：佚名
翻譯：家長大學
這是一篇在FACEBOOK上異常火爆的文章。它講出了一個2歲孩子的心裡話，也給了無數為人父母者一個孩子的視角去重新檢視自己的家庭教育。
原來家庭日常的那些衝突和矛盾都只是沒理解孩子而已。別說是一個2歲孩子，就算6歲的孩子可能都無法完全地表達自己的內心想法。
因此無論您的孩子是2歲、3歲，還是6歲，都推薦您閱讀這篇小文，從一個全新的視角走進孩子的世界，發現如何成為更好的父母。
「我2歲，可我並不叛逆……我有點沮喪、緊張和焦慮，我有很多困惑，我不知所措，我想要……抱抱。」
一個2歲的孩子在日記中寫道：
「I am 2. I am not terrible…I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.」
From the diary of a 2-year-old:
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早上起床時，我想自己穿衣服，但是你說：「不行，沒時間了。我給你穿。」
我有點傷心。
我想自己吃早飯，但是你說：「你弄得太髒了，我來餵你。」
我有點沮喪。
我想自己走上車，但是你說：「沒時間了，現在就得出發，快點，我抱你走。」
我哭了。
我想自己下車，但是你說：「不行，沒時間了，我抱你。」
我想逃跑。
Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told 「No, we don’t have time, let me do it.」
This made me sad.
I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told, 「No, you’re too messy, let me do it for you.」
This made me feel frustrated.
I wanted to walk to the car and get in on my own but was told, 「No, we need to get going, we don’t have time. Let me do it.」
This made me cry.
I wanted to get out of the car on my own but was told 「No, we don’t have time, let me do it.」
This made me want to run away.
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後來我去玩玩具，你說：「不是那樣玩，要這樣才對……」
所以我不玩了。然後我從別人手裡拿過一個娃娃剛要玩，你馬上說：「不，不行！你要懂分享。」
我也不知道自己做錯了什麼，我傷心地哭了，很想有人安慰我，抱抱我，但是你卻說：「沒什麼事，一邊玩去。」
Later I wanted to play with blocks but was told 「no, not like that, like this…」
I decided I didn’t want to play with blocks anymore. I wanted to play with a doll that someone else had, so I took it. I was told 「No, don’t do that! You have to share.」
I’m not sure what I did, but it made me sad. So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told 「No, you’re fine, go play」.
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似乎現在是要收拾玩具了，因為我聽見有人一直在邊上嚷嚷：「把玩具收回來。」
可我不知道該怎麼做，有沒有人能演示一下教教我？
這時一個聲音傳來：「你在那愣著幹嘛呢？趕緊把玩具撿起來！」
我不能自己穿衣服，不能自己走路，但是現在要我自己收玩具。
我不知道該怎麼收啊。也沒有人教教我。收拾哪個？放到哪去？我聽見好多人在說話，但是我不明白到底要做什麼。我被嚇得呆若木雞。
我害怕，我只能躺到地上，放聲大哭。
I’m being told it’s time to pick up. I know this because someone keeps saying, 「Go pick up your toys.」
I am not sure what to do, I am waiting for someone to show me.
「What are you doing? Why are you just standing there? Pick up your toys, now!」
I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up.
I’m not sure what to do. Is someone supposed to show me how to do this? Where do I start? Where do these things go? I am hearing a lot of words but I do not understand what is being asked of me. I am scared and do not move.
I lay down on the floor and cry.
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吃飯時我想自己盛飯，但是你說：「不，你還太小，我來吧。」
我覺得自己很小，很無力。
我努力地把食物往嘴邊送，但耳邊卻有個聲音一直說：「看這兒，吃這個。」然後是食物撲面而來。
我不想再吃了，我想哭鬧扔東西。
我下不了椅子，因為大人不允許。因為我還小，我不能……你們一直在說：「必須吃一口」，這讓我哭得更厲害了。我又餓又難過，身心備受打擊。我很累，想要抱抱。我覺得不安全，失去控制。我害怕無措，於是哭得更厲害了。
When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told 「no, you’re too little. Let me do it.」
This made me feel small. I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying 「Here, try this, eat this…」 and putting things in my face.
I didn’t want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry.
I can’t get down from the table because no one will let me…because I’m too small and I can’t. They keep saying I have to take a bite. This makes me cry more. I’m hungry and frustrated and sad. I’m tired and I need someone to hold me. I do not feel safe or in control. This makes me scared. I cry even more.
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我2歲，沒人允許我自己穿衣服，沒人允許我去想去的地方，沒人考慮我的需要和感受。
然而，卻要求我會「分享」，「要聽話」，「乖乖等著」。要求我懂得怎麼說話，怎麼做事，怎麼控制自己的情緒。要求我能安靜地坐好，或者知道如果扔東西，東西會碎……但是，我真的不懂這些。
對於那些我懂的，也自信能做好的事，卻不允許我做。像走路、推東西、拉東西、系拉鏈、系扣子、倒水、盛飯、爬高、奔跑、扔東西這些我能做也感興趣的事都不讓我做。
I am 2. No one will let me dress myself, no one will let me move my own body where it needs to go, no one will let me attend to my own needs.
However, I am expected to know how to share, 「listen」, or 「wait a minute」. I am expected to know what to say and how to act or handle my emotions. I am expected to sit still or know that if I throw something it might break….But, I do NOT know these things.
I am not allowed to practice my skills of walking, pushing, pulling, zipping, buttoning, pouring, serving, climbing, running, throwing or doing things that I know I can do. Things that interest me and make me curious, these are the things I am NOT allowed to do.
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我2歲，可我並不叛逆……我有點沮喪、緊張和焦慮，我有很多困惑，我不知所措，我想要……抱抱。
I am 2. I am not terrible…I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.
-佚名
-Author unknown
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