群群媽媽，坐標國內。從女兒群群3個月起開始OPOL雙語養育。與其他公眾號不同的是，這裡更多的是我在實際養育過程中積累的真實感悟、方法、資源、反思以及 — 為了更好踐行雙語養育積累的語言筆記。在獨自修煉的同時，也希望可以幫到你。
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群群兩歲了，暫時沒有感受到T2的恐怖，優點缺點自然都有。對於家長來說，管教的話脫口而出，誇獎和表揚卻不那麼容易，尤其在OPOL雙語養育家庭，英文語言運用是一個問題，如何誇到點子上是另一個問題。
關於表揚孩子這件事，當下育兒界的流行觀點是表揚要具體，忌空洞，要走心，忌誇張，要誇努力，忌誇天分。我很贊同。網上不少教家長如何誇娃的文章豪擲一車形容詞，喂，有事嗎？
Awesome
Amazing
Dynamite
Excellent
Exceptional
Fantastic
Great
Incredible
Magnificent
Marvelous
Outstanding
Perfect
Phenomenal
Remarkable
Super
Terrific
那怎樣算「走心」呢？依個人淺見，掌握三條就行：
第一，用法具體，例如Good thinking，I see how well you have put that puzzle piece in place，What sharp eyes you've got for spotting that tiny ant in the book.
第二，從孩子的角度出發，強調對方（以You開頭造句），例如You really tried, it really shows. Your eyes easily spotted the quickest way through that maze.
第三，從家長的角度出發，體現共情（以I開頭造句），例如I appreciate you setting the table so neatly. I have faith that you can find a respectful solution.
以及，任意組合1,2,3。
在網上找了幾篇類似Encouraging Things to Say to Kids，101 Ways to Praise a Child的文章（公號後臺回復「表揚」可獲得相關文章），摘錄一些平時用得到的句子。
（一）贊思維能力和做事能力
會觀察：
1、Great discovery!
2、You have discovered the secret!
3、Your eyes easily spotted the quickest way through that maze.
4、The amount of detail you added to this drawing makes it seem so life-like.
會思考和提問：
1、Good thinking!
2、What a great imagination!
3、What a sweet way to ask!
4、I have noticed that you are very good at asking questions.
5、Your questions are logical/creative!
6、I love the way you come up with that question.
會解決問題：
1、What a smart way to solve a problem!
2、What a creative solution to that problem!
3、You are thinking out of the box!
4、I’m sure you can find a way to solve this problem.
5、Good learning!
6、Good planning!
7、You are capable.
做事認真努力：
1、I noticed that you』ve been working hard at cutting your own food.
2、You never gave up, even when it was hard.
（二）贊性格、秉性
愛你本身：
1、I like the way you are.
2、I like the way you did that.
3、I love it when you are polite/positive. (注意不是I love you, 是I love it)
有愛心：
1、You are so caring.
2、You are a very kind friend.
3、You are such a good listener.
4、I am sure Peppa enjoys a caring friend like you.
樂於助人：
1、You are such a good helper.
2、You always help me when I need you.
3、You did a great job of helping Sandy with her work.
4、Thank you for putting all of our towels in the laundry. It helps us get ready much faster.
團隊合作：
1、I appreciate your cooperation.
2、You work very well with your friends.
3、You did a great job of participating.
有創意：
1、You are thinking out of the box!
2、You are so creative!
3、There are so many creative ideas in your little head!
責任心：
1、You have taken great care of your books.
2、You are (always) so responsible.
分享：
1、Wonderful sharing!
2、It's so nice of you to share it with other children.
做事乾脆：
1、That was neat!
勇敢：
1、You are not afraid of a challenge and I like that about you!
有趣、幽默感：
1、You are so much fun.
2、You have a great sense of humor.
樂觀：
1、You have such a positive attitude.
（三）關於進步和退步
進步很大：
1、How do you feel about what you accomplished?
2、Look at what you』ve accomplished!
3、You are improving!
4、You are getting better!
5、You are on your way.
6、You re catching on.
7、I can see the progress.
進步一般：
1、You are growing up.
2、You tried very hard.
3、You really tried.
4、You tried really hard on that.
5、You never gave up, even when it was hard.
6、It really shows.
7、I noticed how long you stuck with that.
（四）體現家長共情的句式
關於信任、自豪和尊重：
1、I trust you.
2、I know I can trust you because…
3、I knew you could do it
4、I have faith in you to figure it out.
5、I am so proud of you.
6、You must feel so proud of yourself right now!
7、You can do it！
8、You will make it.
9、I respect you.
10、I respect the decision you made.
關於愛你這件事（永恆）：
1、You re such a joy.
2、You are a treasure.
3、You mean a lot to me.
4、You are so important to me.
5、You are special to me.
6、You make my life complete.
關於愛你這件事（短暫）：
1、You made my day.
2、You brighten my day.
關於理解：
1、I know you don’t like doing this, and I thank you fordoing it anyway. It really helps.
2、You have the right to feel angry.
You are so sweet
You are adorable
You are exciting
You are precious
Nice work
Beautiful work
Way to go
Good for you
Good Job
How lovely
How nice
Well done
Awesome
Amazing
Dynamite
Excellent
Exceptional
Fantastic
Great
Incredible
Magnificent
Marvelous
Outstanding
Perfect
Phenomenal
Remarkable
Super
Terrific