【MBA中國網訊】今天的文章是三個特別適合年輕人看的TED(像胖胖這種90後老人也被打了一碗雞血)來來來上車
TED：20多歲決定你未來的人生
20-30歲是人生的關鍵期，你走的每一步，做出的每一個決定，都會影響你以後的人生。
心理諮詢師Meg Jay根據自己多年的經驗，給處在這個重要時期的年輕人一些中肯的建議：過好20多歲的日子，為將來做準備。
在20-30歲這個階段，很多人會產生身份危機，不知該如何定位自己，Meg Jay建議大家與其糾結於此，不如做些實際的事情去增加自身價值，利用那些看起來比較遠的關係拓展自己的人脈，認真考慮和選擇自己將來的新家庭。
❶ To forget about having an identity crisis an identity crisis and get some identity capital .
忘掉身份危機，獲得一些身份資本。
By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.
做些可以增加你自身價值的事。
❷ The urban tribe is overrated.
不要局限於你的核心小圈子。
urban tribe：住在大城市的年輕人組成的小圈子。
New piece of capital, new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come from what are called our weak ties.
新的資本，新的約會對象大都來自圈外。新事物正是來自所謂的弱關係裡。
❸ The time to start picking your family is now.
現在是時候選擇你自己的家庭了。
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.
考慮婚姻問題的最佳時間是開始婚姻前，這意味著像挑選工作那樣有意識地挑選愛情。
30 is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're deciding your life right now.
30歲並非新20歲，所以要認清成人期，獲得一些身份資本，利用弱關係，選擇自己的家庭。不要被你不知道的，沒做過的事情定義人生，你要自己去決定。
J·K·羅琳2008哈佛畢業演講
在很多人眼中，羅琳是成功人士的代表。但是在這篇演講裡，羅琳女士與哈佛的畢業生們暢談了自己年輕時所經歷的困苦。
她曾經飽嘗失敗的滋味，但正是這些失敗，讓她重獲新生。她從自身的經歷出發，告訴大家要堅持夢想，不要害怕失敗。
跟很多人一樣，羅琳也曾在自己的理想和父母對她的期望之間掙扎。
❶ They had hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to study English Literature.
他們希望我去拿個職業學位，而我想去攻讀英國文學。
但是，羅琳也教導年輕人，我們不應該因此責怪父母。
❷ I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty.
我不會因為父母的觀點，而責怪他們。埋怨父母給你指錯方向是有一個時間段的。當你成長到可以控制自我方向的時候，你就要自己承擔責任了。尤其是，我不會因為父母希望我不要過窮日子，而責怪他們。
堅持自己理想的羅琳在畢業後嘗到了失敗的滋味。她婚姻破裂，成為單親母親，一貧如洗，前途渺茫。但是，此時的她反而體會到了失敗的重要性。
❸ Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged.
失敗意味著剝離掉那些不必要的東西。我因此不再偽裝自己、遠離自我，而重新開始把所有精力放在對我最重要的事情上。如果在其他領域成功過，我可能就不會找到，在一個我確信自己真正屬於的舞臺上取得成功的決心。
❹ Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above the price of rubies.
失敗使我的內心產生一種安全感，這是我從考試中沒有得到過的。失敗讓我看清自己，這也是我通過其他方式無法體會的。我發現，我比自己認為的，要有更強的意志和決心。我還發現，我擁有比寶石更加珍貴的朋友。
我們不應該害怕面對失敗，而是應該從失敗中獲得智慧。
❺ It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all.
生活不可能沒有一點失敗，除非你生活的萬般小心，而那也意味著你沒有真正在生活了。
❻ The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive.
從挫折中獲得智慧、變得堅強，意味著你比以往任何時候都更有能力生存。
最後，羅琳女士送給年輕人這樣兩句話：
❼ Personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life.
幸福在於知道生活不是一份漂亮的成績單，你的資歷、簡歷，都不是你的生活。
❽ As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.
生活就像故事一樣：不在乎長短，而在於質量，這才是最重要的。
娜塔莉·波特曼2015哈佛畢業演講
在這篇感人至深的演講中，波特曼袒露了自己看似開掛的人生背後的故事。在哈佛讀書時，我們的女神也曾一度不自信地抬不起頭來。
但是，她默默努力，克服了每一個挑戰。她說，「我對自己很嚴苛，但這也帶給我愉悅，為我即將成為最好的自己而愉悅。」
因為自己演員的身份，波特曼在哈佛校園很不自信。於是她故意選修了神經生物學和高等現代希伯來文學來證明自己的嚴肅和智慧。但是她發現自己並不快樂。
❶ I realized that seriousness for seriousness’s sake was its own kind of trophy, and a dubious one, a pose I sought to counter some half-imagined argument about who I was.
我發現，為了嚴肅而嚴肅，這本身就是一種虛榮，是一種模稜兩可，是為了反抗我想像出的自我而採取的一種姿態。
相反，只有過程中的快樂，才能讓自己真正得到享受。
❷ And the joy and work ethic and virtuosity we bring to the particular can impart a singular type of enjoyment to those we give to and of course, ourselves.
做某事時的快樂、敬業和爐火純青，可以給我們服務的對象帶來一種特定的享受，當然也讓我們自己得到享受。
她說，年輕人要抓住自己的「盲目」自信放手去搏，因為過了這個時期，我們可能會太過清醒，變得畏手畏腳。
❸ Make use of the fact that you don't doubt yourself too much right now. As we get older, we get more realistic, and that includes about our own abilities — or lack thereof. And that realism does us no favors.
要好好利用你如今不是那麼懷疑自己這件事，隨著年齡增長，我們變得更加現實，這包括對我們自己能力和缺陷的認知，而這種現實對我們沒有好處。
不要害怕自己的無知和沒有經驗，這些都是你獨一無二的財富。
❹ Your inexperience is an asset, and will allow you to think in original and unconventional way. Accept your lack of knowledge and use it as your asset.
你的無經驗是種財富，能讓你有原創和跳出常規的點子。接受你知識上的匱乏，把它當成財富來用。
波特曼也提醒大家，要關注他人，要抓住身邊美好的人和事。
❺ Getting out of your own concerns and caring about some else’s life for a while, remind you that you are not the central of the universe.
跳出你自己的事，偶爾關心一下他人的生活，這會提醒你，你不是宇宙的中心。
❻ Grab the good people around you. Don't let them go. The biggest asset this school offers you is a group of peers that will be both your family and your school for life.
抓緊你身邊的好人，別讓他們跑掉，這所學校能給你們的最大財富，就是一群將來會成為你一輩子的家人，也是良師益友的同學。
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