Some guys show great interest in Chinese girls (not foreign-grown ones whose mind is just like a westerner’s). But meanwhile you may feel a sense of lacking confidence due to your fear of dealing with the cultural differences.
很多男生對中國女孩兒非常感興趣，但是同時又因害怕不了解中西文化差異缺乏信心。
hěnduō nánshēng duì zhōngguó nǚháir fēicháng gǎn xìngqù，dànshì tóngshí yòu yīn hàipà bù liǎojiě zhōngxī wénhuà chāyì quēfá xìnxīn.
Taiwan or the mainland of China seem quite different from western girls. In their eyes, Chinese girls are quite special due to the rich cultural heritage, very tender, considerate, kind and alluring. Their outlook on life is often different from westerners'.
臺灣女孩和大陸女孩看起來和西方女孩挺不一樣的。在很多男生眼裡，中國女孩顯得更特別。因為文化差異、溫柔、貼心、善良、充滿誘惑。當然也因為人生觀也與西方非常不同。
táiwān nǚhái hé dàlù nǚhái kànqǐlái hé xīfāng nǚhái tǐng bù yíyàng de.zài hěnduō nánshēng yǎnlǐ，zhōngguó nǚhái xiǎndé gèng tèbié.yīnwèi wénhuà chāyì、wēnróu、tiēxīn、shànliáng、chōngmǎn yòuhuò.dāngrán yě yīnwèi rénshēngguān yě yǔ xīfāng fēicháng bùtóng.
Frist dating with a Chinese girl,Please:
如果第一次和中國女孩兒約會，請：
rúguǒ dìyí cì hé zhōngguó nǚháir yuēhuì，qǐng：
Do not lose heart.
不要灰心。
búyào huīxīn.
A Chinese girl also wants to be loved by an excellent guy, including one from a foreign nation. It is acceptable for her to date or even marry a guy of different culture, minority, or nationality.
Attach great importance to First dates.
重視第一次約會。
zhòngshì dìyī cì yuēhuì.
First dates are very important. During first dates, cultural differences, which will not come out immediately, are usually not the top concerns. What you should do is just follow some general rules for first dates. You should try your best to give her a good first impression. And there are :
(1) Dinner is a good choice when meeting her for the first time.
當你第一次見她，一起吃晚餐是不錯的選擇。
dāng nǐ dìyīcì jiàntā，yìqǐ chī wǎncān shì búcuò de xuǎnzé.
Nobody hates to eat. Choose a nice but not too expensive place. Bar is not a good place to date a Chinese girl. Remember to pay the bill by yourself instead of going-touch.
(2) Be yourself. Don't be too forward, for haste makes waste.
做真實的自己，不要急於求成，欲速則不達。
zuò zhēnshí de zìjǐ，búyào jíyú qiúchéng，yùsù zé bùdá.
Try to impress her with your personality instead of showing yourself off. Even if you decide to have further contacts with her, wait to tell her later.
(3) Choose good conversational topics.
找到好的交流話題。
zhǎodào hǎo de jiāoliú huàtí.
When talking with her, you can ask her questions that can help you know more about her. When she talks, listen to her carefully and pay attention to her answers. One way to keep the conversation moving forward is to avoid dead end questions. Never ask too sensitive or sexual topics. Humor is one of the best weapon.
If you are lucky and get steady with a Chinese girl, then you should pay attention to the cultural differences between you and your girlfriend during your date. Don’t be too nervous. Normally the Chinese girl you date is westernized to some extent. However, it is of great significance to you to keep the following tips in mind.
1. Show due respect to her Family.
讓她知道你尊重她的家庭。
ràngtā zhīdào nǐ zūnzhòng tā de jiātíng.
Family ties are more respected within Chinese. So try to learn more about her family. When you date a Chinese girl, you actually date her family to some extent. Be interested in her family and endeavor to develop a good relationship with her family if necessary, which sure would be beneficial to your relationship with her.
2. When dating a Chinese girl, you must take the problem of Marriage into consideration.
如果你決定和一個中國女孩約會，就必須把婚姻考慮進來。
rúguǒ nǐ juédìng hé yígè zhōngguó nǚhái yuēhuì，jiù zuìhǎo bǎ hūnyīn kǎolǜ jìnlái.
You guys may just want dates only instead of marriage. But a Chinese girl dates a man usually with an intent of marrying that person. So if you do not want to marry her, please stay away from a Chinese girl. Otherwise, both of you will be deeply hurt.
3. When you date a Chinese girl, you should carefully deal with your relationship with other female friends.
如果你和一個中國女孩兒約會，得小心處理好與其他女性的關係。
rúguǒ nǐ hé yígè zhōngguó nǚháir yuēhuì,děi xiǎoxīn chùlǐ hǎo yǔ qítā nǚxìng de guānxì.
Though a Chinese girl might rate you more if she discovers you are admired by other Chinese girls, she will definitely feel a sense of insecurity. Loyalty is a quality that is highly respected in the China’s culture. Being too intimate with other girls can be easily misunderstood as being not loyal to your lover. If you wish to impress a Chinese girl you have to prove to her that you can be such a man of loyalty.
4. How to deal with controversial issues like religion, nationalism, Taiwan, sex, and so on?
學會處理比較有爭議性的話題：比如民族、宗教，敏感政治問題、性等等。
xuéhuì chùlǐ bǐjiào yǒu zhēngyìxìng de huàtí：bǐrú mínzú、zōngjiào，mǐngǎn zhèngzhì wèntí 、xìng děngděng...
Well, face them bravely. A Chinese girl who wants to date you is ready for this discussion. But you should keep in mind that conversational skills and mutual understanding are needed. Compromises and sacrifices should also be made. If you love each other, this is not a real issue.
So what you need are confidence and action. Besides, it will be of great help to your date if you are provided with tips on how to date a Chinese girl successfully.
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