自信是一種微妙複雜的東西。它可以影響我們的思維、表達、行為方式等方方面面。自信的人行動更為果敢,辦事效率更高,更有可能實現目標。
如何才能讓自己成為一個自信爆棚的人呢?
The more challenges you take on, the more failures you'll have, but learning that you can recover, get up and push forward builds confidence.
挑戰越多,失敗就越多。但是,你要相信自己很快能從中恢復過來,並將此作為你建立信心的助推器。
Track your accomplishments
記錄你的成就
Keep a list of successes, big and small. It'll help you to see your abilities in a more positive (and realistic) light.
記錄你的每一次成功,無論大小。這會讓你用一種更積極(或者說更現實)的眼光來審視自己的能力。
Stop measuring yourself against others. What you see isn' always real. Making comparisons is a damaging and an inaccurate measure of success anyway.
不要拿自己和別人比較。眼見不一定為實。無論如何,跟別人比較是對成功的一種破壞性和錯誤性的衡量。
How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us. Expensive clothes aren't necessary. Put emphasis on good fit, good condition, and appropriateness. Don't be afraid of some color; black is professional, but color gets noticed.
穿著不僅影響一個人的心情,同樣會影響別人對我們的看法。但這並不是說要「穿金戴銀」,重點是注意搭配,衣服質地要精良,要適合個人的氣質。還有就是不要迴避某些顏色;黑色確實能讓人看起來更職業一些,但鮮豔的顏色也會吸引更多的目光。
People with lower confidence often tend to have poor posture. Stand up, sit up, and keep your head up. It's an instant confidence booster.
不自信的人往往體態也不太好。要做到站有站相,坐有坐相,時刻保持昂首挺胸的姿態。這樣會讓你的自信心瞬間爆棚。
The more knowledge you acquire, the more confident you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you feel, the higher your confidence will be.
學習的越多,人會越自信。知識就是力量,知識越充實,人就越容易感到自信。
Better physical condition and appearance gives you more body confidence, and as a bonus, the extra endorphins give you an added energy boost.
良好的身體狀況和外表會帶給你更多自信。另外,健身過程中產生的內啡肽會讓你更加精力充沛。
When you find yourself in a social situation, instead of gravitating to those people you're comfortable with, start a conversation with someone you don't know very well. Eventually getting to know new people will become easier.
無論在哪種社交場合中,記住不要總是只跟那些讓你感覺舒服的人在一起,要主動嘗試去和自己不是很熟悉的人交談。這樣,你會更容易結交新朋友。
Bite sized goals are easier and quicker to achieve and the momentum can give you a boost when attacking bigger goals.
小目標實現起來相對更容易也更快,並且能推動你實現更大的目標。
Volunteer to take on tasks or projects that are a stretch for you. You'll learn you can do more than you thought you could and so will others.
積極主動地承擔起能夠拓展你的能力的工作,一旦著手你就會發現自己比想像中更加能幹,任何人都一樣。
Be around confident people
Cultivate relationships with "can- do" people; attitude is contagious. On the other hand, avoid "can t do" people. It works both ways.
多和自信的人交往,因為態度是有感染力的;另一方面,也要儘量避開不自信的人。這兩種方式都會產生相應的影響。
跟自己做朋友
When you hear that voice in your head, abusing, attacking and belittling you, remind yourself that a friend wouldn't talk to you in that manner.
當你聽到自己的內心有聲音在誹謗你、攻擊你、貶低你的時候,要堅定地告訴自己真正的朋友是不會如此的。
When you trust your intuition, and listen to those gut feelings, you'll become more confident in the knowledge that you do know what's right for you.
當你做到相信並且遵從你的直覺,你會變得更加自信,也更清楚什麼才是適合自己的。
Practice the skills you need to succeed. The more you practice, the more confident you become. This is true of every type of skill.
反覆練習能助你成功的技能。實踐得越多就越自信,這對任何一種技能來說都適用。
一個自信的人,懂得並樂于欣賞和肯定自己的能力,心態會更積極上進;同時,自信還能讓你吸引更多志同道合的人,從而提高社交圈的品質,獲得更多成功。
李白大大也說過,「天生我材必有用」,我們有什麼理由不做一個自信心爆棚的人呢?