【問心·Awakening】相處之道 | How to Get Along with People

2021-03-01 龍泉寺龍泉國際LQI


問1:工作中要管理團隊,但我一直主張要包容別人,即使有人小小地犯錯也只是講道理,不去批評。我的領導說要對下屬嚴厲,並讓我多些苛刻,不能做個絕對的「善人」。請問如何處理寬容與嚴厲的關係?
Q: I always tell myself to tolerate others in managing my team, trying to reason things out instead of criticizing people for their minor faults. My boss holds the policy of being firm and strict with subordinates, and suggests that I should be sterner, and avoid being an absolute 'Nice Guy'. I'd like to ask about how to do well between being tolerant and being stern.

學誠法師:恩威並重。善用威者不輕怒,善用恩者不妄施。
A: Employ both kindness and severity. Those who are well versed in keeping severity will not easily lose their temper. Those who are well versed in employing kindness will not use it indiscriminately.

問2:我有一位下屬工作不令人滿意,很多事情只能我幫她收拾爛攤子,而且脾氣暴躁,對人不尊重。反覆開導許多遍,但總是好不了幾天又開始發作,也使我自己容易生起嗔恚之心,我該怎麼處理?
Q: One subordinate's work performance is not satisfactory, so I need to fix her work many times. What's more, she is bad-tempered and disrespectful to others. She always returns to the same types of behavior only a few days after my patient talks with her, which irritates me as well. What should I do?

學誠法師:外在的人和事是順是逆,關鍵看自己如何去看待它。處難處之人,恰好可以是增長度量、培植福報的好機會。
A: Whether external conditions and people are favorable or not mainly depends on how you perceive them. Getting along with difficult people provides us with great opportunities to broaden our mind and increase our blessings.

問3:頂禮師父!我們應該如何學會坦然呢?作為一個企業主管,應如何做才能讓每個員工都感受到公司對他們的關心和愛,並且都是一視同仁的呢?
Q: With my prostration to Master. What should I do to feel at ease? As a business director, what am I supposed to do to make every employee in the company feel the same caring and love without partiality from the management?

學誠法師:不要把公司和員工當作兩個方面,他們本來就是一體的。有人才有事業,每一個人的成長,也就是公司整體的成長。
A: Don't take the company and the employees as two; they are originally one. There will not be any business without people. Every individual's growth makes the growth of the company as a whole.

來源:學誠法師的微博
Source: Microblogs of Ven. Master Xuecheng
翻譯:北京龍泉寺翻譯中心
Translated by: Beijing Longquan Monastery Translation Center


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