Neglecting Yourself Doesn't Make You a Better Mother (Ⅱ)

2021-02-24 譯名學長讀外刊

Even if it is essential, self-care comes easiest to those who are privileged. 「We can’t really have a conversation about self-care and divorce it from the awful systems that have been illuminated by the Covid crisis,」 Dr. Joy said. A solo walk is impossible for my friends who are single mothers and can’t afford child care, for example. Plenty of moms don’t have access to safe outdoor spaces, or a minute to spare because they are so focused on putting food on the table. And even when the pandemic is over, just how many dinners out, solo grocery runs or Netflix nights would be enough to restore a healthy sense of self?

Emma Kate Tsai in Houston is dead burned out. She has two little kids, and her oldest is nonverbal with autism(自閉症). Ms. Tsai, a teacher, is busy caring for everyone else. If she had time, she would exercise, but it hasn’t happened for years. And braggy social media posts from fellow parents don’t provide motivation.

「There are Facebook groups of other English teachers, and the moms get up at 4 a.m. to exercise. I would die if I did that,」 Ms. Tsai scoffed. 「The problem with all these self-care expectations is that they are just one more thing to beat ourselves up about.」 Instead, she squeezes in a 20-minute nap between her kids』 schedules and then feels terrible about it.

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