I hope that every boy in this world, when he says "I will be with you in the future", stop treating it as a tasteless love sentence. It is tasteless and a pity to abandon it.
Friend A once told me such a story. She once asked her boyfriend, do you have any dreams? That boy, like most boyfriends in the world who know how to coax girls, petted her head and said: I want to be with you forever. When she told this story, she had that sweet and happy expression on her face.
At that time, I had to laugh with her in a group, but I didn’t have the heart to ask, so what did he do for this goal?
Later, the two of them broke up without any accident, because the boy just played games every day and ignored her, skipped classes, and dropped out of school as usual. Friend A was very sad. She shook her head and said with tears: I have no future with him. But later, I never heard her mention his name. This story, like so many stories, is even so forgotten.
At our age, boys are usually a little bit naive and girls are a little more mature. Girls will fantasize about the lives of husbands and children in the future, the happy appearance of washing their hands and making soup, and even begin to figure out how the two people will buy a house and how to repay the loan. But boys at this time, for the future of themselves and their lovers, often only stay on the three words "together", and don't know what to do. So you can often see girls saying that I am going to give birth to a daughter in the future, putting her in a red dress and putting pigtails on her, but you will not see boys saying that. Girls』 dreams are very trivial, but very practical. Boys』 dreams are beautiful, but more ethereal.
People say that 20 is the most beautiful age for a girl, and it is also the age with nothing for a boy in his 20s. I have seen and heard of the separation of many lovers. The biggest difference lies in their conflicts about the future. Yes, they will quarrel, quarrel, and frustrate each other about the future that they don’t know at all, and finally completely obliterate their future. You will definitely ask me, thinking about the future, doesn't it just show their responsible attitude towards this relationship? Of course, I think so too. But the point is not that they are discussing the future, but that their entry points are very different. One is not sober enough, and the other is not confused enough. For example, boys think that I will marry you in the future. Girls are thinking, what do you want to marry me?
In today's society, we have all heard stories about many girls who abandoned their boyfriends in college and turned to the embrace of wealthier people. Because of the endless stream of these kinds of stories, many young boys with girlfriends feel very stressed, and many boys without girlfriends attribute their reason for not having a girlfriend to the relationship between girls who are too money-worshiping. In fact, this is a very irresponsible view for girls. Most of the girls I know are diligent and diligent and want to create a future with their lover. In fact, the abandoned boys, your girlfriend left you, a large part of the reason is that you can not see the future.
You will all say, I want to be with you, and you will all say, I love you. But has any of you said or practiced it like this-I will work hard, I will build our small home step by step. No girl in this world will marry you because of your orange dagger or phoenix mount in the game, even if you hit the Dota ladder for a million points, it will be useless. You know, love without actual giving cannot be called love, at best it can be called like.
When you drop off your subjects, skip classes, and complain to your girlfriend about your profession, have you ever thought that you are killing her confidence in you a little bit? You know, not only you, she is also working hard. She wants to read the book you read, and she wants to go to the class you want to go to. She is under no less pressure than you. She endured it and worked hard. But she hopes that your efforts are as willing as hers. It's not that she can't stand your poverty, but can't stand your belief that you will be poor for a lifetime. Although yours is very hard now, she has always had one expectation: Your future can become very beautiful in your hands. The upstarts in this society, whether they are richer than you, have mostly relied on their own efforts to start from your current status. So why can't you?
Love is not just talking, and love is not just as good as it sounds. If love is a matter of two people, then marriage is a matter of two families. I saw a log written by a boy on Renren. He was complaining that he was not liked by his girlfriend's parents because he was too poor. Parents nowadays often have a baby girl who can provide delicious food and drink at home, not to suffer for marrying you. This kind of thinking is really normal and reasonable. There is no parent, who is the reincarnation of Jesus, has such a strong spirit of suffering. What they want is that their daughter can live happily after a hundred years of her own, and not be troubled by food and clothing.
A girlfriend of my friend B is going to study abroad after graduation. He said, if I love her, then even if I go abroad to wash dishes, I will definitely not give up on her. I will prove to her parents one day that I can make her live a good life. Boys, when you are complaining that your girlfriend's parents are too snobbish, have you ever shown this kind of determination, and you must reassure them? Your complaints will only reach one person's ears, and that is your girlfriend. Have you ever thought about it? The most sad person is actually her. You, or her parents, are the most important people to her. Your parents accompany her for the first half of her life, and she wants to spend the second half of her life with you. What she wants to see is that her parents and you like each other, and that you are really like a man, taking responsibility for the future.
is 20 years old, one is not too young to say that young, one will really start to think about the future age. We are no longer the same as before, as long as we spend the first month and the next, it will be good time. The future is cruel, but it will always come. Do you continue to behave yourself, or do you start to become more stable, do you still drop out of courses, do not even know what you have learned in your major, or start to actively prepare and wait for the future. In fact, the choice is yours. I just hope that every boy in this world, when he says "I will be with you in the future", stop treating it as a tasteless love sentence. It is tasteless and a pity to abandon it.
If you are serious, then work hard from now on, if you are not serious, then please don't allow her in the future, tell her you are just for fun.
If you have never worked hard for our future, what can you prove that you love me?