凡事當留餘地，得意不宜再往；處事須留餘地，責善切戒盡言
There is a question on the Internet: which moment, do you think and a friend can no longer be friends?
A netizen told such a story.
During college, she had a good relationship with a roommate.
Near graduation, the two were lucky enough to be invited to a senior group in the industry.
When chatting, the elder asked her about her future plan, because she paid great attention to the meal and thought again and again.
When she first tried to answer, the roommate said first:
"She is not interested in her major at all, just want to be a net red ."
After listening, everyone looked up and laughed, but she blushed and could not laugh.
She wanted to do well, maybe get a job, and was told as a joke by her roommate.
After such a thing happened several times, she gradually estranged from the friend.
Love the writer Emerson's words:
It is necessary to have a sense of measure to laugh with one another.
Proper humorous jokes, like seasoning in rice, can make our lives more relaxed and pleasant.
However, excessive or inappropriate seasoning can ruin a good meal ."
Words have a ruler, frolicking degree; grasp the measure, mature do not exceed the moment.
No matter how good a relationship is, it can not be repeatedly tested at the bottom line.
Sanmao once said :" No matter how close a friend is, you must not lose your measure ."
When Sanmao moved to the Sahara Desert, he had a good personal relationship with his neighbors. The best thing was to live next door in Guka.
But Guka always secretly took Sanmao's things when he was unknown.
Once, Guka took Sanmao's high heels to his sister and returned the next day, the shoes had become ragged.
Sanmao could not help but lose her temper, so the two were very unhappy.
Therefore, to maintain a good relationship, a sense of measure is essential.
No matter how familiar with the people around, we must grasp the measure, not easily overdraft each other's relationship.
There is a good saying :" We need intimacy, but not interference. We need warmth, but we don't need baking ."
It is the best way to maintain a relationship without reaching out to others' lives.
Grasp the measure, not more than the moment, is the respect for others, but also the embodiment of a person's accomplishment.
Meng Fei once said :" to be a host or a man, I am willing to deal with that kind of person who knows the measure ."
A measured person is a high-cultivation person, and it makes people feel comfortable to interact with them.
They behave well, speak well, take proper measures, and leave room for others.
Whether it is family, love or friendship to get along, measure is very important, not because the relationship is good, should discard the measure.
該尊重的人要去尊重，該克制的時候及時克制住自我。
話不說滿，事不做絕，能講分寸就是講水平，能留餘地就是留天地。