最討厭這句「你要好好學習」

疫情當前，停課不停學。有些地方電視無網絡，手機無信號，為了學習，一個小山坡，一塊荒草地，一個小窩棚，一對姐弟兩，努力學習中。這樣的好好學習也許家長和老師們都很欣慰！

同在一個市，卻有另外一番景象，某小區一小孩寫好遺書，把家燒了，然後割腕，消防車救護車都來了，聽說好像是最近聽網課沒及時打卡，沒提交作業，家長叨叨孩子「你要好好學習」而引發的矛盾。這樣的結果估計沒有師長想遇到！

孩子的天性就是玩，而父母呢都希望孩子好好學習，望子成龍望女成鳳，動不動就來句「你要好好學習」。平時聽著就煩悶的不得了，現在宅家這麼久，沒有同學，沒有書本，成天對著手機上課，還要被嘮叨，就算成年人也受不了！

「你要好好學習」聽著苦口婆心是為孩子好，其實毫不誇張地講是一種比較自私和不負責任的說法。代入法「你要好好工作」，天天有人這樣對你說，不要說煩，即使你這樣做了，就一定能夠事業有成嗎？既然我們都做不到的事情，為什麼還要冠冕堂皇教育自己的孩子呢？

想要學業有成、事業有成，質量裡面講了一個很重要的方法叫「關係管理」。什麼叫「關係管理」呢？就是有策略和方法管理所有的相關方和活動。舉個例子，一個單位想成功，不能關起門來自家折騰，要打開門，上下左右，前後內外都活動起來，事情才能做得好！

就說「你要好好學習」這個事，那不是孩子一個人的事情，前後左右上上下下的相關方如家長，老師，同學，朋友，社區，主要過程如教育制度、考試制度、人才選拔制度，主要的場所如家庭、學校、社會活動等都有很重要的關係。如果單盯著孩子，讓他來承擔一切，能不煩嗎？

作為孩子的監護人，我們有必要梳理清楚所有的關係，明確關係的重要程度及輕重緩急進行分類管理，充分挖掘並共享各方資源，為孩子也為相關方帶來共贏的收穫！舉個最簡單的例子，在家裡要嚴格要求，在外面要多鼓勵和表揚，這樣才能懂規矩有尊嚴。老師和家長要信息共享，相互配合，而不是學習是學校和老師的事情而與家長無關，或者孩子是家長應該要輔導的，老師一人對一群哪管理得了。

質量就在我們身邊，如果沒有質量之「相關方管理」的專業思考，這麼一句看似無比正確的「你要好好學習」，也許我們千千萬師長會一直困惑為什麼會成為孩子最討厭的一句話！

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