The ＂Right＂ Choice

There is no way to determine what is a right choice versus a wrong choice. The key is to shift our thinking toward living with all possible outcomes and being at peace with whatever choices we make.

Do you ever find yourself making a choice and then wondering whether that was the right choice that you made? Or do you ever find yourself procrastinating, worrying about whether you are going to make the right choice in the future. I was set chatting with a couple of friends a few days back. And one of them I say self-confessed almost self-confessed procrastinate, but you know he is definitely conscious of the fact that he might take longer than some people to sort of think things through and I have to say sometimes it's with a really great effect, and there is real great benefit to it. Not suggesting that's a bad thing equally as with another friend same time we were chatting among ourselves. And he tends to make sort of decisions quite quickly and say impulsively perhaps in some incidences. We were talking about the pros and cons and obviously there are benefits to both and obviously there are drawbacks to both as well. And it's perhaps in finding some sort of space in the middle, for if you really dig in to whether there even is a right answer to the decisions that we make in life. Of course, as always and it's almost always goes without saying, but as long as our intention is to benefit others, to benefit ourselves, to not hurt others, to not hurt ourselves. Then we can't really say that there is a right and a wrong answer and we would never know more to the point. And yet we spent so much time reflecting on it, thinking about it "could it be different ?" Perhaps playing through different senarios we are look to the future and imaging many different senarios. And look, this is an old reference so I probably sound really really old, but if you think back to the movie of Sliding Doors. It was so successful at the time because it was such an interesting idea that we could even explore those different routes in life, those moments that exist where we make a decision and depending on that decision would influence where our life goes, but this isn't what we are talking. There is no way of knowing what the alternative would be and sometimes I feel like we automactically assume that when things aren't going well we automatically look back and assume that the alternative would have been better and because of that we spend more time in that place caught up in regret wishing we had done something different. And yet there is no way of knowing whether it would have been better, we are just assuming because we are having a difficult time now, it could well have turned out much much worse. But ultimately we have to keep coming back to the only truth we have right now is this present moment. There isn't anything else other than that. It almost doesn't matter what decisions we 've made in the past. It almost doesn't matter what decisions we are going to make in the future. Our only real sense of truth is here right now in this moment. So the more we can see the tendency of getting caught up in the past, getting caught up in the future imaging that decision may have been different, might have been better in the past or could be different, might be better in the future. Instead, just be present with what's happening in this moment. And if we do that with a positive intension then almost certainly life would unfold exacly as it's meant to.