現實就是這樣：生活困頓，職場失意，成功路上鋪滿荊棘。那麼能否在逆境中安然自若並能繼續前行，就取決於能否培養以韌性為中心的個人習慣了。
韌性是逐步鍛鍊出來的強壯的心理素質。雖然這種能力不是天生的，但這是一個可以養成的習慣，一個可以學習的技能。對我們每個人來說都非常重要。
你的心理素質夠強大嗎？看看是否具備這4個特徵：
1They're connected to their emotions. 關注自己的情緒。
Resilient people understand their emotions and how to manage them. Some people say that suppressing what you feel is the best approach when you're going through tough times, but it's just the opposite--suppressing your emotions can backfire.
韌性強的人理解並懂得處理自己的情緒。有的人說，壓抑自己的情緒是度過困境的最好方法，但事實上剛好相反——壓抑自己的情緒只會造成事與願違的效果。
People who are highly anxious or have a lot on their minds tend to struggle with unwanted thoughts. Resilient people are connected to their emotions and self-aware, which gives them more control.
內心焦慮的人，或心理負擔重大的人常常會糾結於多餘的想法。而心理素質強大的人就會關注自己的情緒，傾聽自己內心的聲音，這樣能夠更好地控制情緒。
2They don't listen to negative voices in their heads. 忽視頭腦裡那消極的聲音。
Resilient people are able to get past the negativity and dig deeper to discover what's triggering it. Then instead of taking it to heart, they're able to turn it into positive intentions.
心理素質強大的人能夠擺脫負面的情緒，更深入地思考其中的原因。他們不會把負面的想法放到心上，而是把它們轉化為積極的動力。
Resilient people are optimistic and believe in their own strength and ability to overcome any problems. In a crisis, a resilient person will be positive, open and willing to find the solution.
他們都很樂觀，相信自己的優點和處理問題的能力。當他們遇到了困難，他們會表現出積極開放的態度，敢於尋找解決方法。
They will not be dwelling on the problem but looking forward to the future solutions that should be considered.
他們不會糾纏在問題上，而是對可行的方法抱有希望。
3They don't need to control everything. 不必事事控制在手。
Resilient people are comfortable with not controlling everything. They know how to come to terms with external circumstances; they understand that the only thing they can do is focus on what's within their sphere of control--their own attitude, their own emotions, their own behavior.
心理素質強大的人不會把每一件事情都牢牢掌握在自己的手上。他們懂得如何適應外部環境，清楚明白唯一需要關注的便是控制欲背後的核心——態度，情緒和行為。
4They know how to bounce back. 情緒恢復力強。
Resilient people know how bounce back, The word Resilience has its origin in the Latin word resilire, which means to jump back.
意志堅韌的人們懂得如何恢復情緒。Resilience（反彈力）這個詞來源於拉丁詞彙resilire，也就是「往回跳」的意思。
Resilience is knowing how to bounce back from adversity and life challenges. It's something any of us can do--we just need to learn how. Tough-minded resilient people will not allow life's circumstances to push them down and hold them under.
情緒彈力就是懂得從逆境和生活變化中恢復過來——我們都可以做到，只需要學習就能掌握。心理素質強大的人不會讓生活環境的變化壓倒自己。
These habits are not easy to cultivate, but if you make them a part of your emotional toolkit they will help you develop the strength and toughness to get through the worst of times.
以上這些習慣雖然並不是一時三刻能夠學會的，但你可以把它們當作情緒工具的一部分，從而培養應對最困難時期的耐力和韌性。