See a little story:
A parent went to his children's school, pay special attention to observation, he helped the pupils behind the door, found that none of them did not say "thank you ".
No matter in the school or shop door, few people go in and dump the door.
In fact, in real life, this kind of people abound.
To walk behind the person to help the door, although only a detail, but shows a person to others convenient, let others comfortable upbringing.
Have heard such a sentence:
A man's face is the outer skin. What really determines a person's image is another face: upbringing ."
Education is not installed in front of people, nor can we learn etiquette lessons to "end" out, it is a natural expression of a person's internal quality.
To show upbringing is to show the appearance of a person's soul.
It is difficult to really understand a person on the surface, but we can see a person's character and sincerity from the details of life.
Because upbringing is something that details can't hide.
The author Nanshan told of his own experience.
One year, he went to Xi'an for business training, and a middle-aged man named Ruan Qing was assigned a room.
During the conversation, he learned that Ruan Qing often wrote materials in the unit, smoking addiction is very large, one or two packs a day is a common thing.
But when they lived in the same room, Ruan Qing never smoked, he said to Nanshan:
"It's not good to let you smoke secondhand smoke, if only I could ."
In this way, when he was addicted to smoking, he went downstairs and smoked a few in the yard.
On the day of leaving, Nanshan had to leave late because of his task.
Ruan Ching cleaned his bed like he had just checked in, with slippers, chairs and table supplies neatly arranged. That serious spirit, let Nanshan very moved.
Although he and Ruan Qing only got along for more than ten days, the other side left a deep impression on him, feeling that the other side has a noble temperament.
Since then, the two have been in contact.
What is upbringing?
Some people say that upbringing is a kind of culture and moral cultivation.
Some people say that upbringing is the virtue accumulated from inside to outside in life practice.
Some people say that upbringing is rooted in inner self-cultivation, self-consciousness without reminding, freedom based on restraint, kindness for others.
In fact, upbringing is not tall, to put it bluntly: there are others in the heart.
Do not let others smoke secondhand smoke, consciously make the bed, these are only unremarkable details, but reflects Ruan Qing's good understanding of others, pay attention to the convenience of others to consider the problem of upbringing.
Those who think only for themselves, no matter what kind of education, or uneducated people.
A cultured person, who knows how to think differently, has good intentions and never adds unnecessary trouble to others.
As American writer Mark Twain said:
How much we think of ourselves, how little we think of others. Good upbringing is manifested in our ability to hide this fact ."
True upbringing, never deliberately distinguish the size of the matter, not to mention the size of each other's age, identity.
The real upbringing is the restraint before the person, but also the self-discipline after the person, every detail in the life is the refraction of the upbringing.
Pay attention to decorating your second face and be an educated person.
To be considerate of others, to be gentle, to be convenient, to convey warmth, and to live a better society.