有一次，在手機上看到顏如晶在《奇葩說》中的片段，她說：「你們知道為什麼有些人不喜歡說話嗎？因為每一次說話，都會被誤會。」有些人會選擇澄清，但是她不敢，因為她覺得每一次澄清後都會有事情發生，她在各種是非裡面糾纏，有些人會在這些是非面前留下隻言片語，讓她全身而退，一個字沒說。一次兩次都不說，以後什麼都不敢說。一次兩次沉默，不是因為什麼東西變更好，而是覺得沒有必要了。
「我百口莫辯的樣子像極了十惡不赦的罪人。」一些人並沒有幹什麼錯事，卻被人誤解。前幾天「蔡康永向大S道歉」登上熱搜，蔡康永在錄製的視頻中講到助理秒懂演員的暗號，舉了大S的例子，大S在錄製節目時動動哪一個手指，助理就知道演員想幹什麼，也指出了演員是因為無法與助理說話，必須用手勢溝通，這段視頻被惡意剪輯、解讀。斷章取義，給大S造成了困擾，因此蔡康永給大S道歉。蔡康永的話並沒有問題卻要道歉，現在有些演員並不像以前一樣那麼頻繁的發微博的原因之一，或許就是因為曾經發過的一些語言被人曲解。表達者要把真正的意思用正確的方式傳遞給傾聽者，傾聽者也要作為合格的傾聽者，不要通過斷章取義和惡意解讀傷害愛表達的人。。
有些人不喜歡說話，
是他不敢說，
它怕說錯話，怕說了被討厭的人誤會，
因此更喜歡一個人呆著，
在一個狹窄的空間封閉自己，
這樣才會覺得有安全感。
成為一個好的講述者很重要，
成為一個好的傾聽者同等重要。
英語翻譯
Once, I saw a clip of Yan Rujing in "Qihua Shuo" on her mobile phone, and she said: "Do you know why some people don't like to talk? Because every time they speak, they will be misunderstood." Some people will choose to clarify, but she I dare not, because she felt that something would happen after every clarification. She was entangled in all kinds of right and wrong. Some people would leave a few words in front of these right and wrong, causing her to retreat without saying a word. Do not say once or twice, and dare not say anything in the future. Silence twice, not because something has changed for the better, but because it feels unnecessary.
"I look like an unforgivable sinner." Some people did not do anything wrong, but were misunderstood.
A few days ago, "Cai Kangyong apologizes to Big S" was on the hot search. In the recorded video, Cai Kangyong mentioned that the assistant knows the actor's secret code in seconds. He gave the example of Big S. Which finger did the big S move when recording the show? Assistant I knew what the actor wanted to do, and pointed out that because the actor was unable to talk to the assistant, he had to use gestures to communicate. This video was edited and interpreted maliciously. Taken out of context and caused trouble to Big S, so Cai Kangyong apologized to Big S. There is no problem with Cai Kangyong's words, but he has to apologize. Now, one of the reasons why some actors do not post Weibo as frequently as before, perhaps because some of the language they have posted has been misinterpreted. The expresser must convey the true meaning to the listener in the correct way, and the listener must also be a qualified listener. Don't hurt people who love expressing through out-of-context and malicious interpretation.
Some people don’t like to talk, but they don’t dare to say it. They are afraid of saying the wrong thing or being misunderstood by the disliked person. Therefore, they prefer to stay alone and close themselves in a narrow space, so that they feel safe. . Being a good narrator is important, and being a good listener is equally important.
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