成年人最大的自律，就是克制自己去糾正別人的欲望
We all hate being forced.
Even if we know TA is right, the other side is for our good.
Why does toothpaste have to squeeze from the middle?
Carrots are good for you, but I just don't like them;
I think Chinese medicine is particularly useful. Why do you say it is pseudoscience?
But we are equally afraid of rejection.
We feel hurt and aggrieved when others can't appreciate it:
How many times have you said, why can't you take a bath and play with your cell phone?
Listen to me, must put the money in Yu' e Bao...
Can you quit smoking for me and yourself?
Such scenes, in our lives, constantly staged, let us fret but accustomed to.
Most people have a tendency to correct each other, especially among the closest.
But in fact, many "corrections" are totally unnecessary for us.
No one is willing to be persuaded.
Force each other to act according to their own will, will only multiply the differences between the two sides.
When each other can not convince each other, logic and facts become no longer important, and emotions eventually prevail.
This led to the expansion of the problem, from the point of view, to moral and personality attacks.
"How did I know you ?"
"Never seen a man like you !"
……
We spent all our strength, not only unable to change each other's ideas, but also brought pain and hostility.
Both sides feel hurt and lead to alienation.
強迫對方按自己的意志行事，只會讓雙方的分歧倍增。
當彼此都無法說服對方時，邏輯和事實變得不再重要，情緒最終佔了上風。
我們花光了力氣，不僅無法改變對方的想法，還帶來了痛苦和敵對。
雙方都覺得自己受到了傷害，進而導致了關係的疏離。