父母是孩子的第一任教師，也是孩子成長中的榜樣，良好的家庭教育對孩子的一生都起著至關重要的作用。為幫助家長解決幼兒成長過程中家長困惑。2020年11月18日，玉秀灣吉的堡幼兒園馬豔琴園長為家長帶來一場落地實用的《如何說，孩子才會聽》的專題講座。Parents are the first teacher of their children, and also their role models. Good family education plays an important role in children's life. In order to help parents solve the confusion in the process of children's growth. On November 18th, 2020, Principal Ma brought a practical lecture on communication.
是「你怎麼又把飯打翻了？」
還是「寶貝有沒有燙傷啊？沒關係的，媽媽再給你盛一份飯」
傾聽--全神貫注地聽
回應--用簡單的詞語回應他們的感受
總結--說出他們的感受
實現--用幻想的方式實現他們的願望
Respond - respond to their feelings in simple wordsSum up - say what they feelThe Realization -- to realize their wishes in the way of fantasy. 請孩子幫忙、明確表達強烈不同意的立場、表明你的期望、提供選擇、告訴孩子怎樣彌補自己的失誤、採取行動、讓孩子體驗錯誤行為的自然後果。
Ask for help, express your strong disagreement, express your expectations, provide choices, tell your child how to make up for his mistakes, take action, and let the child experience the natural consequences of their bad behavior. 讓孩子自己選擇、尊重孩子的努力、不問太多問題、別急著告訴答案、鼓勵孩子善用外部資源、別毀掉孩子的希望。Let children choose by themselves, respect their efforts, don't ask too many questions, don't rush to tell the answer, encourage them to make good use of external resources, and don't destroy their hope.
當孩子遇到問題時，我們要和孩子站在同一個戰隊共同去面對問題，而不是和孩子站在對立面等著對他的錯誤進行批評指責和懲罰！當然這些改變對於我們來說可能並不容易，但是呢這樣和孩子說話的方式才是我們真正能夠給孩子們帶去祝福和益處的，所以也要鼓勵你多花些時間和精力在生活中練習這些方法，相信一定可以的！
When a child encounters problem, we should stand with them in the same team to face the problem together, instead of standing on the opposite side of them waiting to criticize and punish their mistakes! After all, these changes may not be easy for us, but this way of talking to children is benefits to children. Please spend more time and energy practicing these methods in your life. I believe that you can do it!