本欄目由壹父母和簡耕教育聯合出品
「 壹姐兒說 」
嗨，大家好，我是壹姐兒。今天，我要給大家安利一個特別棒的育兒方法，英文名「Playful Parenting 」，我們叫它「遊戲育兒」。
遊戲育兒的創始人勞倫斯·科恩博士（Lawrence Cohen，PhD）是美國著名臨床心理學家、兒童遊戲治療師、親子關係專家。
他總結了自己多年在兒童遊戲、遊戲治療和親子教養領域的實操和經驗，寫成了《遊戲力》一書。這本書不僅曾獲得過美國國家親子出版獎金獎，還被翻譯成14種語言在全球銷售。
作為遊戲育兒理念的推廣者，科恩博士還在世界各國開設了多場演講、父母工作坊等，實實在在地幫助了很多家庭。
壹姐兒本人也是遊戲育兒理念的受益者，親測超有用。我的原則是，好方法不怕曬，只有拿出來和大家一起共享，相互啟發，我們每個人的收穫才能翻倍。
所以，我們決定聯合科恩博士的中國合伙人簡耕教育，共同出品「遊戲育兒」這個全新的欄目，用生動的案例，跟大家分享遊戲育兒的理念和實操。
在這個欄目裡，你可能看到文章、視頻，也可能聽到音頻，甚至科恩博士本人也會不定期出境哦~
今天，為了慶賀本專欄的開張，科恩博士也專程從美國寄來了發刊詞。
以下是來自勞倫斯·科恩博士的發刊詞原文（附翻譯）。
文 | Lawrence Cohen
Hi, I’m Lawrence Cohen. I』d like to welcome you to this very first online a series of articles that will introduce Playful Parenting course designed specifically forto parents in China.
大家好, 我是科恩，歡迎來到壹父母為中國父母開設的「遊戲育兒」專欄！
I’m a father. I’m a stepfather. I’m a grandfather. I’malso a psychologist.
我是位父親，是位繼父，也是位祖父，同時，我也是位心理學家。
And I designed Playful Parenting based on my studiesof Attachment Theory and Trauma Theory and Narrative Therapyand Re-evaluation Counseling and all the other things that I studied learning child development，but most ofall I based Playful Parenting on my own experiences as a father, the joyful experiences and painful experiences.
遊戲力的理念來源於我學習過的依附理論、創傷理論、敘事療法、再評價諮詢和其他兒童發展領域的研究，但最重要的基礎還是我作為父親的體驗，那些或者愉快、或者痛苦的體驗。
And I develop Playful Parenting in order to help myown parenting, my friends, my family and the families that I work with in myoffice.
設計遊戲力的目的是為了幫助我自己養育，幫助我的朋友、我的家人以及那些進入我諮詢室的家庭。
After several years presenting workshops and classesin China, and answering hundreds of questions from Chinese parents, I haveadapted Playful Parenting to address your specific needs and concerns.
在過去的幾年中，我在中國開辦了多次工作坊和課程，回答了幾百個來自中國父母的問題，這幫助我用遊戲力的知識和技巧來解答你所關心的問題和具體的困惑。
I have been deeply moved by the dedication Chineseparents have for their children’s well-being and success. I have shared the joyand delight that Chinese take in their children. And I have felt the pain ofthe difficulties and struggles that many parents face as they strive to dotheir best.
中國父母為了孩子的幸福和成功無私奉獻，這種精神深深地打動了我。你們從孩子身上收穫了喜悅和快樂，我也為你們高興。同時，許多父母也面臨著困難和掙扎，卻依然竭盡全力做到最好，你們的痛苦我感同身受。
So this course is designed to address the three biggestchallenges that face Chinese parents today:
因此，創辦這個專欄的初衷，就是為了幫助中國父母應對當今社會最重大的三個挑戰。
The first is that the world is changing and we can’tjust do things exactly that our parents did, even if we wanted to.
第一個挑戰：世界在變化，作為家長，即便我們願意，也不能照搬自己父母那一套。
But we are not sure what to do instead. I have greatrespects for my parents, for your parents, but the world has changed andparenting has to change also.
可是，我們也不知道到底應該如何做父母。我非常尊重自己的父母，也很尊重你們的父母，但世界已經改變了，育兒方式也必須改變。
Connection is the heart of parenting. A strong, secureattachment has been approved again and again to be crucial to children successin life, in every area of life.
聯結是育兒的核心。堅實而安全的依附關係對兒童未來各方面的成功至關重要！這已經被一次次驗證。
The second big challenge the parents face today isthere are so many things that pull away from connection.
第二個挑戰：總有太多事情阻礙父母和孩子進行聯結。
Academic pressures, the fastpace of life,financial worries, smart phones and computers, the loss of time out in naturewith slower pace.
學業壓力、快節奏生活、經濟壓力、手機、電腦，客觀環境的變化使人們融入自然、體會慢生活的時間越來越少。
So Playful Parenting is all about restoring connectionto it’s right place as the center of the family. Connection is the very essenceof Playful Parenting.
所以，遊戲力這種養育方式就是要使聯結重新成為家庭的中心，回歸到它本來應有的位置。聯結正是遊戲力的本質！
The two biggest ways to connect are first love andaffection; coddling and attention, giving children what they need and thesecond is play.
聯結有兩大方式，一是愛和關心、愛撫和關注、給予孩子所需；二就是遊戲。
Now I call my method Playing Parenting not becauseit’s all about play and play all the time but because play is the part that weusually forget.
我把這種養育方式稱為「遊戲力」，不是因為它只是玩，要一直玩，而是因為遊戲常常被我們遺忘。
Play is the part that goes out of the window when weare stressed or worried.
每當壓力來襲，焦慮滋生，遊戲就被拋到了九霄雲外。
So let’s being play and light-heartedness, back intothe lives of ourselves parenting and the lives of our children, because play iswhere children live, play is how they learn best ….
所以，讓我們放輕鬆，玩起來，將遊戲帶入養育生活，帶入孩子的生活，因為遊戲就是孩子的生活方式，也是他們學習的最好方式。
The third big challenge for today’s parents is thepressure to be perfect.
第三個挑戰：父母內心都在追求完美。
I’m sure you know what I mean. I don’t want PlayfulParenting to be another pressure. I want it to be a joyful way to ease thepressure, while you still keep your high expectations for your children.
你們一定明白我的意思。我不希望遊戲力成為另外一個壓力，我希望它能幫助你輕鬆減壓，同時，保持對孩子的高期待。
I don’t want you to think: now I have to play, justright！This is about relaxing into parenting — joining inchildren in ways that work for them and work for us.
我不希望你們這麼想：現在我必須玩，要正確地玩！遊戲力提倡輕鬆養育，以你和孩子都能接受的方式加入他們就可以了。
We tried to be perfect and it’s exhausting.
我們曾經追求完美，到頭來卻精疲力盡。
We need to take care of ourselves. We need to taketime to pause, to reflect on what it means to a parent？
我們需要關照自己，暫停一下，思考父母這一身份究竟意味著什麼？
What kind of parent do I want to be? What’s importantto me? These are some questions I hope you will ask as you learn more aboutPlayful Parenting.
我希望自己成為怎樣的父母？什麼對我是重要的？我希望在學習遊戲力的過程中，你會不斷地問自己這些問題。
I hope you』ll learn a great deal from these articles.But I don’t want you to take as final word or the total truth.
我希望你們從這個專欄中收穫頗豐，但卻不希望你們將此奉為真理，或止步於此。
Parenting is something so personal so deeply from theheart that we have to take in from what we hear and see if it fits for us.
養育是一個非常私人化的過程，它源於我們內心深處，所以請選取那些你需要的，然後試試看它們是否適合你。
So question it. See if it really works but don’t justreject it just because it is different from what you expect and what you usedto.
因此，歡迎質疑，看這種方法是否有效。千萬不要因為這和你之前的習慣或期待不一樣就拒絕它。
Give it a try. I』d like to see Playing Parenting as aset of experiments. What I can try next? What I am doing is not working sowell. So let me experiment with something very different！
試試看吧！我更願意將遊戲育兒看成一個接一個的實驗：接下來我能試些什麼？現在的方法不太有效，那我就實驗一下完全不同的方法吧！
There are many ways to learn more about PlayfulParenting, from workshops to online classes to Knowledge Courses and articleslike the ones here at iParent. I welcome you on this journey of discovery.
學習遊戲力的途徑有很多，工作坊、線上基礎課，以及壹父母這裡開辦的專欄。歡迎你開啟一段發現之旅！
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