2020年對遠距離（跨國）情侶的影響

2020年對於遠距離的跨國情侶而言，真的很糟糕。對於中美跨國戀情侶而言，更糟糕。

2020 is absolutely terrible to long distance couples, even worse to long distance couples living in China and America.

第一道障礙，新冠肺炎。

First obstacle, Covid-19.

第二道障礙，是川普。

Second obstacle, Trump.

原本見面的計劃，被迫取消了。原本計劃下次見面，日期成為了未知數。

Some couples were planning to meet, had to cancel the plan. Some couples were going to make plans to meet, now have to be patiently waiting.

一 新冠病毒

1 / Covid-19

2020年實在是充滿了未知數。

There are too many uncertainties in 2020.

在農曆新年的時候，我以為最遲，十月也能夠結束。現在已經是八月了，我們還在與新冠病毒在做鬥爭。但是，這並不代表疫情會永遠存在著。想見面的時候，可以視頻。想聽對方的聲音，可以隨時語音。因為疫情原因，不會外出，反而還多了時間聯繫。這些都是好的積極方面，但是大多數遠距離情侶都被消極的一面（不知道幾時能夠結束）給困惑住了。對我而言，可能疫情期間是給兩個人一個機會來讓感情升溫的。

I thought this virus would be over by October when it just happened during New Year. It’s August and we’re still fighting with Covid-19. But, it doesn’t mean it will exist forever. When we want to see each other, we can video chat. When we want to listen each other’s voice, we can voice call each other. The virus keeps us at home, we have more time for each other. These are the good sides of the Covid-19, but most long distance couples are troubled by the negative(no one knows when this virus will be over) side. To me, maybe this is good chance to get closer.

如果是遇到對方有時間，但是卻不安排時間給自己，首先應該選擇溝通。寧可將時間（工作/學習結束後）貢獻給遊戲，電視劇，刷社交媒體，和別人聊天，就是不願意抽出時間來回覆你，那麼就應該是時候直接和他/她談你的想法了，告訴對方你感到被冷落了。

If he/she has time, but doesn’t make time for you, talk first. If he/she would rather spend time on games, tv shows, social media, chatting with others, but not on you. Then it’s time to tell him/her how you feel, tell him/her you feel neglected.

不管是不是遠距離戀愛，都是需要花時間和精力經營的。雙方都不是彼此手機裡的寵物，不是無聊的時候的消遣。都是一個活生生的人，有感情有思想的人，不應該是被敷衍對待的。

You need to spend time and put efforts in a relationship, any kinds of relationship. You’re not a pet in his/her phone, you are a person with feelings and thoughts, you shouldn’t be treated badly.

如果是在疫情期間，發現了兩個人之間在不能見面的情況下，心態無法擺正，那麼兩個人可以學會怎麼樣去保持聯繫，怎麼樣保持積極，而不是選擇分手。

When you can’t meet, hard to be positive, you should learn how to stay in touch with each other, how to stay positive. That’s what you should do during this time, not break up.

如果是在疫情期間，發現了對方在不能見面的情況下，選擇出軌，那麼就趁早斷掉。

If he/she cheats just because you can’t meet, then end it.

二 川普

2/ Trump

他做的事，或者是說的話，或多或少影響到了跨國情侶原有的計劃。如果不是自己處於跨國戀中，我實在是懶得關注美國地區的新聞。

What he does, what he says, are actually affecting some long distance couples. I don’t want to care about America if I’m not in a long distance relationship.

他將病毒政治化，從一月開始禁止中國人入境至今，至今仍然在花時間在攻擊中國，轉移注意力。也許有住在美國的朋友會說，一點都不可怕。但是，在跨國情侶中住在中國的一方，看到美國這樣子的情況，會擔心和憂慮的。畢竟在中國，從疫情開始爆發，到居家隔離，到開始好轉，是看著中國怎麼樣一步步做的。

Trump politicizes the virus. He has been spending time on attacking China since he banned Chinese travel to America in January, he is still trying to distract people from judging him. As the one living in China and seeing how America is doing, of course I get worried. In China, from the time it started to spread, to the time we all under quarantine, and now we are going steady, we all saw how China did it step by step.

川普的很多發言，都讓我瞠目結舌。新冠肺炎是一場騙局，戴口罩是沒有必要的，新冠就是流感而已，不願意戴口罩，對國際留學生打壓，禁這個禁那個，退這個組織退那個組織，沒有針對新冠病毒做一個周全的計劃來保障市民的安全，反倒是籤這個行政令那個行政令，挑起爭端，唯恐天下不亂。

Trump always shocks me. He calls it a hoax, he thinks it’s no need to wear a mask, he thinks it’s just a flu, he doesn’t wear a mask, he drops restrictions on foreign students, bans this and that, quit this organization and that. He didn’t make a thorough plan to keep people safe, he is always busy signing this or that, starting fights, always busy being a trouble maker.

更不要提在中國這一方的父母，會如何看待小孩未來會去美國定居的想法了。作為父母的，總是想孩子平安健康。但是從疫情爆發開始，川普政府的不作為，遊行抗議，各種針對中國人的暴力事件頻發，這些都會讓家長越來越擔心自己小孩去美國生活。

Parents would definitely get worried about their children if they want to live in America. As parents, they just want to make sure their children are safe. Since the virus started, trump administration has been doing everything but not about the virus. The protesting, the violence targeting Chinese, these will just make parents worry about their children even more.

跨國情侶中，住在美國的一方，是想讓中國的另一半過去定居的，在現在的大環境下，是很難和以前一樣充滿信心的，會讓原本考慮去美國定居的跨國情侶猶豫了。

In a long distance relationship(between China and America), under the current circumstances, it’s hard to be positive like before when the one lives in China considers living in America.

美國是不是以後會反華情緒更高漲？美國禁了中國軟體後，對日常生活是不是會影響大了？是不是會難找工作？是不是應該一起在中國生活？怎麼樣能夠保證兩個人發展都好呢？

Is America going to be more racist about Chinese? After they banned Chinese Apps, would it be hard in daily life? Is it going to be harder to get a job? Should you just live in China? How can we assure both of you can contribute to your family?

2020年1月15日至今，已經214天了。

January 15th, 2020 till now, 214 days already.

在我們中國疫情開始爆發後，我向他分享了我都做了什麼準備；

I shared what I prepared to him after the virus started to spread here;

在他那邊疫情開始爆發後，不放心的我買了口罩給他，買了酒精和消毒溼巾；

I got him masks and alcohol wipes after the virus started to spread in his city;

也盡我自己的能力買了即食速食給他，多囤食物，少吃外賣；

I did my best to get him instant food, told him to stock up some food instead of eating take out;

我們日常吐槽川普，沒事就發發川普的愚蠢言論，一起吐槽，一起抱怨；

We talk about Trump, we send stupid things he says to each other, we talk and we complain together;

每天看時事新聞，希望疫苗有進展；

We(mostly me) watch news everyday, hoping there’s big development on vaccine;

偶爾感嘆一下，如果沒有這個病毒，我們會在做些什麼；

Sometimes we talk about what we would』ve been doing if there was no virus;

不會因為新冠的原因而想分手，因為我們清楚唯一能讓我們分手的原因只有出軌；

We won’t break up for Covid-19, we know the only reason to break us apart is cheating;

也不會因為目前中美關係緊張而感到慌張，畢竟一切都會變好的；

We don’t get panic about the China - America relation, we know everything will get better;

分享美景，定下來未來的旅遊計劃；

We share picture of beautiful cities, we add some cities to our list;

想一起去吃的，一起去看的，一起去挑戰的，這個清單越來越長；

More things for us to eat, watch, challenge together, this list keeps getting longer;

儘管不知道什麼時候能夠恢復正常，也需要保持積極的心態；

Even though we don’t know when the world will be back to normal, we still try to be positive;

2020年最重要的事，還是平安健康。

The most important thing in 2020 is to stay alive, stay healthy, stay safe.

這段時間的期待就存起來，等到下一次見面。

Save all your expectations, and wait for next time you meet.