有了孩子之後，你是願意做全職媽媽還是願意返回職場？這個話題在女人扎堆的地方永遠是經久不衰的熱議話題。所以，這期主題發言人數之多、內容之豐富堪稱開群以來的一次小高潮。篇幅很長，同學們請耐心看完。
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Do you prefer to be a stay-at-home mom or find a babysitter to take after your child instead? Why?
May:
In my opinion, neither is a good choice. If I am a stay-at-home mom, maybe I will be worried that I'll lose all relevance to the modern world one day. But if I have a full-time job and let a baby-sitter look after my baby, I can't trust strangers completely. I think it's the most important for a baby to be accompanied by its mom. So my ideal state is to go freelance and find a babysitter at the same time. Thus with the help of the babysitter, I can not only own one job, but also have enough time to take care of my baby.
孟瑋Niki:
I am a stay-at-home mom now, at the beginning, being a stay-at-home mom is really a hard time to me. I need take care my daughter, clean house, wash clothes, cook and so on. I was so tired and I wanted to escape from the reality. but now I enjoy my life! I accompany my daughter everyday, we read books, play games, sing interesting songs and dance together, we are so happy ~ I can earn money at home and I study everyday, so I am not worried to be eliminated by the society. mom can give all of her love to baby, but babysitter cannot. babysitter can help us to do housework, but cannot educate our baby and accompany instead of us …so I prefer to be a stay-at-home mom.
Nana:
If I can earn money at home, I would want to be a stay-at-home mom.
唯一:
Ｉam trying my best to earn money at home. "kids are the most important part of my life,but they are not all the meaning of my life" I agree with you absolutely.
R.u.i.r.u.i:
even my bb doesn't born，but，I must be a home stay mom～～
Ｉdon’t like go to work，I hate complicated relationship between people, I can’t be master of my time, when I quit I feel so easy and happy.
Guo tingmei:
I think earning money at home is the best thing as a mother. You can earn money at the same time you have enough time to take care of your child and your family. It is so good.
Gyl:
stay at home is free. But no money. I think so.
Renee:
I prefer to take care of my baby at home in my baby's first three or four years, as the real company time for little baby is too short. And then I will try to find my job or my dream work. Everyone need to realize his or her own value.
虞美人:
I prefer to go to work. Work can make me more encouraging.
the kids can be looked after very well by their grandmother. So I do not have to worry about my kid. When they bring up, they will go to school. And I like my kids to stay with me after I get home. I want them to learn good habits and play with parents. Now I am looking forwards to having our own house. One house ,a mother and a father, a boy and a girl. Nobody can replace the responsibility of the home, especially the father.
蘿拉媽媽:
I think mother should better take care of babies until he or she three years old. But it depends on your personal situation, including your husband's income and his attitude. When my daughter was a baby, I wanted to stay at home so that I could take good care of her, but I didn't want to quit my job because it was a ideal job for me. My husband don't hope me to stay home either, so I was back to work when my daughter was nine months . Anyway, if you want to be a good mother, you can do it perfect nevertheless you have a job. Mother is the hardest job in the world.
唯伊:
I had planned to be a stay-home-mum before my daughter was two years old, but now I changed my mind.
I have to work to earn money, but also I need to keep distance with my mum in low, who lives with us and I must have income to keep my status in family.
波曉熙:
I would like to take care of my daughter before she is three years old but l hade to work. ln my opinion, kid's pre-school education is very important ,and parent's accompany is very important too. But l couldn't loose my job.
青如梅子:
I have been a working mom, but now I am a stay at home mom. When my elder daughter was 5 months I went back to job until she was three years old, at that time she was taken by my mom and babysitter. I think the only problem is I missed my daughter at day, and I haven't my own time at night. The good point is I always took patience to her at that time. After my younger daughter was born, I have to stay at home. We have a babysitter to help me, so I am not very busy. The good point is I can company them every day , bad point is sometimes I have no enough patience to them and scold them. In my opinion it's no necessary company kids everyday, if you are a working mom you can play with kids at night, if you must stay at home then try to enjoy yourself, because if you are unhappy, your kids will unhappy too.
Joy Jin:
Stay-at-home mom is absolutely not the softest job in the world while climbing career ladder is also a huge challenge for females. The ideal life is to keep balance between job and kids. But it can't be realized without supporting from family and society, especially from husband. Because of the education system in China, the age of 27-30 is just the time for women to fight for better job and position, however, the time overlaps highly with the best time of childbearing. You cannot have your cake and eat it. For me, the best education is to show my boy my efforts and attitudes towards life and job and the best company is of high quality without smart phone or TV. Kids are the most important part of my life, but they are not all the meaning of my life.
Melody:
I have no enough energy to take care of two children and do my job well. So I don't want the second baby. I personally hope the family plan policy don't change, even there are help for the family, the duty of mum is heavy. It's difficult for me to resign and I don't think I have the ability to get a better one.
哈哈媽:
I take care of my two daughters, my husband need to 社交. So, I decided to work after six months. I don't want to talk anything about this with he.
Tracy:
I am still a single now，but I have to think about the similar questions like today's topic. At the beginning I never thinking to give up my job to be a full time mum at home, but when I know you everyone here and the workout We chat group, I can accept to be a full time housewife, but I think this house wife is different, still can arrange time to do workout to learn English or make home cake or writing or printing. All depends on self-control.
樹影斑駁:
Sure , that really depends on the person herself/himself. Our dearest 島主水紋路once said she found herself was still a workaholic even as a housewife.
And I know a stay-at-home mother 花媽媽 from weibo. Many of our group-mates are her fans as well. She's always in a really tight schedule and organizes everything pretty well. And she has a very wide range of interests, such as gardening, photographing, cooking and DIY things.
滿意麻麻:
I have been a full time mom for two years. In this period I adjusted my psychologist state, firstly I was worried about everything, included been a new mother not any experience and new life style .Gradually I grew with my daughter's growth, now the state is better than before. I prefer to enjoying playing my kid .
文zhe:
This is a tricky question for me cos I want to have both good sides of being a stay-at-home mom or working mom. Sometimes it is tough to make an important decision as you may always regret not choosing the other one at a moment. To some extent, it is the objective situation leads you to be where you are. Take myself for example, I am a working mom but will try my best to accompany my kid after work and in holidays. I’m basically satisfied with the current state but will also try to be a better mom and better me.
精靈:
When my daughter was three months ，i had to go back to work. I thought taking good care of my daughter was the most important thing but i also didn't want to give up my job, then I seeked help from my mother-in law，It's a pity that she didn't want to lose freedom and felt that her body was not well, finally I found a babysitter .Fact have proved that babysitter can't take care of the baby as hard as a mom, now my mother is helping me.
陽陽:
My talk is not about mum at home, is just about work at home. My former colleague jumped a new job to be a SOHO, who was admired by us for the relax life she owned at that time. Around half a year past, she complained us that as almost all the time staying at home, she has no interest in well-dressed, no make-up and even wore the sleep coat all day. She couldn't bear to be a couch potato anymore and changed job to be a busy OL in one of Top 500 global companies finally.
我找了虎哥一張圖片作為本期話題的配圖，不管是全職媽媽還是職場媽媽，都是世界上最辛苦最偉大的媽媽。
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