《聖經》耶穌說：我將這些事告訴你們，是要叫你們在我裡面有平安。在世上你們有苦難。但你們可以放心，我已經勝了世界。——約翰福音16:33
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昨天晚上，朋友圈被刷屏了，鋪天蓋地都是天津大悅城那個傳遍整個城市的噩耗，在如此令人傷痛的信息中，所有人看到這個消息都為之心疼難受，更何況孩子的父母，那深愛孩子卻不小心造成此後果的父母，他們要承受怎樣的內疚自責和錐心之痛...
生命中，很多時候不知道意外和明天哪個先到，但無論如何，趁活著的時候，就將愛傳遞出去，為那些有需要的人伸出援手，傳遞希望！
基於此，幸福學堂編輯此文，願有愛的你，在輔助傷痛哀傷的他人時，能有效提供幫助！
美國心理學家伊莉莎白‧庫伯勒-羅絲在她1969年出版的「論死亡與臨終」（On Death and Dying）一書中提出的「哀傷的五個階段」（Five Stages of Grief）。
Grief is a somewhat complicated and misunderstood emotion. Yet, grief is something that, unfortunately, we must all experience at some time or other. We will all inevitably experience loss. Whether it is a loss through death, divorce or some other loss, the stages of grieving are the same.
哀傷是一種複雜且難以被理解的情感。
而且，不幸的是，我們都會經歷它。我們也必將經驗失落。無論這個失落，是經由死亡、離婚或者其他的失落，哀傷的階段都是相同的。
There are five stages of grief. If we get stuck in one stage or the other, the process of grieving is not complete, and cannot be complete. Thus there will be no healing. A person MUST go through the five stages to be well again, to heal. Not everyone goes through the stages at the same time. It is different for each person. You cannot force a person through the stages, they have to go at their own pace, and you may go one step forward then take two steps backward, but this is all part of the process, and individual to each person. But, as stressed, ALL five stages must be completed for healing to occur.
哀傷的階段一共有5個。如果我們在其中的某個階段被困住，哀傷的過程沒有完成，而且不完整。因此，也就沒有療愈。為了恢復和治癒，一個人必須經歷這個5個哀傷的階段。每個人經歷的階段也是不同步的。每個人都是不同的。你無法強迫一個人去度過某一個階段，人們只能按照他們自己的腳步來，而且有時候你甚至會進一步退兩步，但這都是過程的組成部分，同時對每個人都是個性化的。但是，要強調的是，只有這五個階段都被完成時，療愈才會發生。
The five stages of grief are:
我們先了解哀傷的五個階段：
這五個階段是：
1 Denial
否認
"This can't be happening to me", looking for the former spouse in familiar places, or if it is death, setting the table for the person or acting as if they are still in living there. No crying. Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss.
「這不會發生在我身上」，在熟悉的地方尋找自己的前任，或者如果面對死亡，依然留著那個人的位子，或者假裝他們還住在那。沒有哭泣。沒有接受甚至意識到失去。
2 Anger
憤怒
"Why me?", feelings of wanting to fight back or get even with spouse of divorce, for death, anger at the deceased, blaming them for leaving.
「為什麼是我」感覺到想去反擊，或者報復離婚的前任。如果是死亡，會對死者感到憤怒，指責他們的離去。
3 Bargaining
討價還價
Bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the spouse who is leaving, or attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss. Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back.
討價還價經常發生在失去之前。想要與要離開的那一方做交易，或者想要去與神討價還價，去改變失落的內容。乞討、許願、祈禱他們回來。
4 Depression
消沉
Overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal.
強烈的無助、沮喪、痛苦、自我憐憫，對人的哀悼，壓倒了一切希望、夢想和未來的計劃。
覺得失控，麻木，甚至感到想自殺。
5 Acceptance
接受
There is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realized it takes two to make or break a marriage. Realized that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of person.
Get help. You will survive. You will heal, even if you cannot believe that now, just know that it is true. To feel pain after loss is normal. It proves that we are alive, human. But we can't stop living. We have to become stronger, while not shutting off our feelings for the hope of one day being healed and finding love and/or happiness again. Helping others through something we have experienced is a wonderful way to facilitate our healing and bring good out of something tragic.
妥協和接受之間是有區別的。你必須接受這個失落，而不是去默默的忍耐它。意識到婚姻的結合和分離都是兩個人的事。意識到那個人的離開（也許是死亡）並不是他們的錯，他們並不是蓄意離開你。（即使是自殺的情形）尋找失落帶給你的痛苦的好的地方，尋找安慰和療愈。我們的目標是轉到自我成長。和那個人帶給你的美好回憶一起。
獲取幫助，你會活下去。你會被療愈，即使你現在不相信，只要知道它是真的就好了。在失去之後感到痛苦是正常的。這證明我們的活著，但是我們並沒有停止生活，我們必須變得更堅強，同時保持我們對於內心對於某天被治癒的，重新找到愛和幸福的希望。通過幫助他人我們也能體會到一個很好地療愈自己體驗，並且從悲傷中帶出了好處。
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