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今兒,咱們就正經滴裝X,談一談「拖延症」這檔事~
NO.1 神馬是「拖延症」?
「拖延症」(Procrastination)並不是嚴格的心理學或醫學術語,而是用於描述人們拖延的行為和狀態。有人認為,這是一個近年來興起的網絡名詞,因為切合現代人的生活而流行開來。「
拖延症」的典型心態似乎可以用電影《亂世佳人》結尾的經典臺詞「After all, tomorrow is anotherday!」(畢竟明天又是新的一天)來概括。
「明天」是希望的一天,是鬥志昂揚的一天,也是西班牙諺語中「一星期中最忙的一天」(tomorrow isoften the busiest day of a week),甚至「一年中最忙的一天」。事實上,「拖延症」的英文「procrastination」便是由pro(向前)和crastinus(明天)組合成的拉丁語procrastinus(向前推到明天)而來。這個單詞的拉丁語詞源和我們「明日復明日、明日何其多」的古訓恰好從正反兩面說明「拖延症」古已有之,中西皆然。
「拖延症」患者(procrastinator)並不一定是「懶鬼」(lazy bones),很多成就傑出者更是出名的拖延。例如達·文西便是一位不折不扣的「拖延症」患者。他的傳世畫作《蒙娜麗莎》畫了四年,《最後的晚餐》畫了三年,均遠超客戶規定的交稿時間,去世時手中還有五六幅作品未交付。他曾在日記中宣洩道:「告訴我,告訴我,到底有哪件事情完成了?」當今《冰與火之歌》(熱播美劇《權力的遊戲》原著)的作者喬治·馬丁因拖稿遭粉絲頻頻抱怨,有媒體甚至說他「簡直創下了拖延症之最」(likely setting some sort of record for procrastination)。一位密切關注馬丁行程的粉絲說,他在「竭盡全力迴避下一本書的寫作」(he is doing everything in his power to avoid workingon his latest novel)。
對不少「拖延症」患者來說,「deadline(最後期限)」恐怕才是第一生產力。的確,不少人都體驗過在最後期限前靈感迸發、效率驚人的巔峰狀態。《銀河系漫遊指南》的作者道格拉斯·亞當斯就曾說:「我愛最後期限。我愛它們飛馳而過時的呼嘯聲」(I love deadlines。 I like the whooshingsound they make as they fly by)。
So,這樣看起來,好像又給了自己「拖延」的理由,畢竟咱都是幹大事的人啊...慢工出細活...想想也木有哪裡不對吼~
NO.2 如何治療「拖延症」?
「Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.」——Spanish Proverb
「明天總是一周中最忙的一天。」——西班牙諺語
One of the most common problems is procrastination. We know what we want to do and shoulddo. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing 「easier」 work or escaping via TV, blogsor music.
拖延症是極其常見的一個毛病。我們都知道自己想做什麼、該做什麼,可最後還是會一而再地磨洋工,挑容易的事做,或者乾脆選擇看電視、讀博客、聽音樂來逃避。
Now, nothing wrong with a little escape from time to time. But if you procrastinate too much youwill not get the most important things done. And you will also send yourself into negative spiralswhere your self-esteem plummets and you spend your days or more in a vague negative funk.
當然,偶爾稍微逃避一下也無可厚非。只是如果拖得太久太多,你會無法完成最重要的事情。而且,你還會陷入消極循環狀態,自信心跌入谷底,整天茫然無緒地消沉下去。
So what can you do? Here are 7 timeless tips to help you to stop procrastinating and start livingyour life more fully.
那該怎麼辦呢?下面這7個建議持久有效,能幫你克服拖延,從而開啟更充實的生活。
1. Stop thinking. Start doing.
停止東想西想,立即採取行動。
A bit of planning can certainly help you to achieve what you want to achieve. A lot of planning andthinking tends to have the opposite effect.
有點計劃確實有助於實現目標,但若思慮並計劃太多,則會適得其反。
You think and think and try to come up with 「the perfect plan」. A plan where you don’t have tomake mistakes, where you will never be rejected, where there will be no pain or difficulties. Such athing does of course not exist. But as long as you work on that plan you can protect yourself.
你絞盡腦汁想得出一個「完美計劃」——用這個計劃,你就能避免犯錯,永遠都不會碰壁,也不會遭遇痛苦或困難。毋庸置疑,這種事壓根兒就不存在。其實,只要堅持實行一個計劃,你也能保護好自己免受拖延症後果之苦。
2. Don’t blow a task out of proportion.
不要過猶不及。
By over thinking and putting things off you are not only trying to protect yourself from pain. Youalso make mountains out of molehills. The quotes above are so true it isn’t even funny. The morehours and days you put something off the worse it grows in your mind.
思慮過頭或不斷拖延推遲並不能使你免受痛苦。你只是小題大做罷了。前面那句諺語確實是至理名言啊。拖延時間越久,你受到的煎熬就越大。
Because you are dwelling on it. And so it expands in your mind. And since you are putting it offyou are probably thinking about it in a negative way. So plan a little and then take action.
因為你總是止不住去想,腦子裡全是這事兒;而且因為這事兒被一拖再拖,你的情緒也跟著消極起來。所以還是把計劃定小一些,然後採取行動吧。
3. Just take the first step.
只需邁出第一步。
When you start to look too far into the future any task or project can seem close to impossible.And so you shut down because you become overwhelmed and start surfing the internet aimlesslyinstead. That is one of the reasons why it is good to plan for the future but then to shift yourfocus back to today and the present moment.
如果你目光太遠,那麼任何任務或項目看上去幾乎都無法達成了。接著你會望而卻步,因為你覺得不堪重負,倒不如漫無目的地上網呢!所以,計劃將來雖好,但緊接著必須把精力投入到此時此刻。
Then you just focus on taking the first step today. That is all you need to focus on, nothing else.By taking the first step you change your mental state from resistant to 「hey, I’m doing this, cool」.
然後,你只需全心全意做好第一步就行。沒錯,別管其他的,只看第一步。開始了第一步後,你的心理會從牴觸變成「嗨,我已經開始啦,還不錯嘛!」