Questioner: My name is Ananth.My question isabout marriage,divorce.
I’m married。
發問者:我叫Ananth,我的問題是關於婚姻的,離婚。我已結婚。
Sadhguru: No, no, they are two differentthings (Laughter & Applause).
薩古魯:不,不,那是兩回事。
Questioner: …marriage,what I see today is many youngsters likemany of them they don’t want to marry and few of them who marry,there are occasions where they are getting divorced;so would youlike to throw some light on this situation Sadhguru?
發問者:...婚姻,如今我看到,許多年輕人他們很多人不想結婚,而少數結了婚的人,他們當中也有離了婚的。薩古魯,你可以對這些現象說些什麼嗎?
Sadhguru: See, you need to understand theinstitution of marriage.it’s about bringing a certain sanctity to the simplebasic needs that every human being has.there are physical needs,there arepsychological needs,there are economic needs,emotional needs,social needs,varietyof needs.To fulfill all these things we set up an institution called marriage.whereall these can be conducted in a sensible manner,otherwise if we did it on thestreets like every other creature,it would turn ugly for us.And we will feelnot good about it.So,to bring some sense of organization,some aesthetic,somestability,because man and woman coming together naturally brought fresh life.
薩古魯:看,你需要了解一下婚姻制度,它是為了帶來某種神聖。每個人都有一些基本需求,有身體上的需求,有心理上的需求,有經濟需求,情感需求,社會需求,各種各樣的需求,為了滿足這些需求,我們建立了一個制度稱為婚姻。這些需求可以以明智的方式來處理,否則,我們像其他生物一樣在大街上,那會變得太醜陋,我們也會感覺不好。因此,帶來某些配置安排,一些美感,一些穩定性,因為男人和女人在一起自然地會帶來全新的生命。
It is...compared to any other creature,it isthe most helpless life which needs maximum amount of support.Youcould leave a puppy on the street;as long as he gets food, he grows up into agood dog,no problem.But not so with a human being;he doesn’t need just physicalsupport,he needs variety of support and above all the stable situation.Whetherthere should be marriage in society or not one will debate when they areeighteen.because physical body is asking for freedom,all right.At that timeeverybody questions –is marriage really needed,why can’t we just live whicheverway we want?
這是... 相對於與其他生物,這是最無助的生命,這需要最大程度的支持。你可以把一隻小狗扔在大街上,只要它得到食物,它就會長成一條好狗。這沒問題,但是人類卻不一樣,他不僅需要物質上的支持,還需要各種各樣的支持,最需要的是穩定的狀態。不管這個社會是否需要婚姻,當他們十八歲的時候就都會辯論,因為物質身體在呼喚自由。好吧,那時每個人都會問,婚姻是否真的需要,為什麼我們不能隨心所欲地生活?
But when you are three years of age youvalued marriage immensely,a stable marriage immensely.Isn’t it so?Yes or no? againwhen you become forty-five, fifty you’re hundred percent for marriage betweenand eighteen and thirty-five you’re questioning the whole process (Laughter& Applause),okay?Because where the physical body isdominant,at that time if you give in to that then it will question everyinstitution.this is hormone fired freedom okay (Laughter).Your intelligence hasbeen hijacked by hormones,so you question the fundamentals of everything.I’m not saying marriage is the thing,but doyou have a better alternative?If you have a better alternative, damn themarriage,but you have not come up with a better alternative,because a stablesituation is a must for a child.Once you have a child it’s a twenty yearproject (Laughter)Your whims and fancies will change,your emotions will change;ifthat is what it is, don’t get into such situations.It’s not compulsory foreverybody to get married,it’s good young.you were saying people are thinkingwhether to get married.I’m glad it is not necessary for everybody,but if youget into it and if you especially if you get into children you must understand,it’sa minimum twenty year project whether you like it or you don’t like it.Otherwiseyou shouldn’t get into those projects,you don’t walk into a project, drop ithalf way and walk away, isn’t it?
當你三歲的時候,你非常重視婚姻,一段非常穩定的婚姻,難道不是嗎?是不是?再一次,當你45、50歲的時候,你百分百肯定婚姻。在18至35歲之間,你在質疑整個過程,對嗎?因為那時受物質身體主導,那時如果你屈服於它,然後就會質疑每個制度,這就是由荷爾蒙激發的自由,好吧。你的智能被荷爾蒙綁架,所以你質疑每件事的根本,我不是說就只有婚姻,但是你有更好的替代方法嗎?如果你有更好的選擇,去他的婚姻,但你還沒有找到更好的替代。因為對於孩子來說必須有一個穩定的環境,一旦有了孩子,這就是20年的項目,你的異想天開和幻想會改變,你的情感會改變。如果就是這這樣,不要陷入這種情況,不是說每個人都必須要結婚。現在的年輕人很棒,你是說人們在思考是否要結婚,我很高興這不是每個人都必需要的。但是如果你投入進去,然後如果你,尤其是當你有孩子時,你必須要了解,這是一個至少20年的項目。無論你喜歡還是不喜歡,否則,就不應該啟動這些項目。你不能開始一個項目,將其做到一半就溜之大吉,不是嗎?
Juhi Chawla: Yes.
Juhi Chawla:是的
It’s your choice but at least chooseconsciously.You don’t have to get married because everybody is getting married,youdon’t have to talk about marriage and divorce in same breath as if they cometogether (Laughter).This is a completely an American idea,you’re thinking ofmarriage and divorce together nobody thought of divorce in this country tillrecently, isn’t it?So, if it happens,if somethinghappens something truly went wrong between two people and they have to separatethat will any way inevitably happen.You don’t have to plan it at the time ofwedding (Laughter).why should you ever talk about marriage and divorce in onebreath?It's a crime.
這是你的選擇,但至少要有意識地作出選擇,你不必因為每個人都在結婚而結婚,你不需要同時討論婚姻和離婚,即使它們是一起發生的,這時典型美國式的觀念。你把結婚和離婚看成一體,在這個國家近期才有人想到離婚,不是嗎?那麼,如果這發生了,如果發生了一些事,兩個人之間確實有了點問題,然後他們不得不分開,那總是不可避免地會發生的,但也沒有必要在結婚時就計劃這個吧。為什麼你總要把結婚和離婚拿來一起討論呢?這是罪行。
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