通過10個心理學小竅門讓一個女孩喜歡你
on 10 psychological ways to get a girlto like you
首先我想說 這些是符合道德而且沒有控制欲的
First off, I want to say that these are ethical and aren’t manipulative
但是最後會使一個女生下意識地被吸引
but will in the end make a girl subconsciously be attracted to
並想待在你身邊久一點
and want to be around you more
所以第一個秘訣是 你要有你自己的生活
So number one have your own life
這正像是處好一段關係的基礎
this is like literally the foundation of starting a great relationship
並將給你一個讓她喜歡你的起點
and will give you the starting base to make her like you
思考一下 就像這樣
Think of it like this
假如有人想賣給你這本令人驚異的
if someone tries to sell you this amazing new book
附帶各種能讓你發財 讓你開心的秘密生活法則的新書
with all kinds of secret life formulas that will make you rich happy
然後你在三天內買了半箱書的銷量世界領先
get a six pack in 3 days and become a new world leader in the marketing
而且書的包裝看起來也很棒
and packaging of the book looks great
但接下來你打開讀到最後
but then you open it and read it
卻發現書上說的都是些人生苦短的話
and all it says is life is short
你不需要這些東西
You don’t need these things
買更多的書只為得到更好的建議
buy more books for better advice
當你想處理好一段關係或是讓一個女孩喜歡上你時
when you’re trying to get a relationship or make a girl like you
而你卻生活枯燥
and you have a boring life
這就是你正在做的事情
this is literally what you’re doing
想像著有令人驚異的生活而且做著很棒的事 你說
Imagine having amazing life and doing awesome things that you say
嗨 女孩 我真的喜歡有你陪伴
Hey girl, I really like having you around
想在你的身邊逗留這便夠了
you want to stick around and that’s all it takes
讓自己的私生活有趣點
make your own personal life interesting
然後女孩們就會聚集
and girls will flock
第二個秘訣 培養一個有意思的興趣或愛好
Tip number two, Having an interesting hobby or passion
這是另外一條超級有趣的秘訣
Here’s another super interesting tip
很難在網上其他地方找到
that is hard to find elsewhere on the internet
有一個愛好會讓你發現更多趣味
literally having just one passion will make you see more interesting plus
而且它會幫你贏得更多尊重
and add to some respect
第一條就是 開始自己的生活
Tip number one, you’re starting your own life
你的興趣可以是任何讓你充滿熱情的事
your hobby can be anything that you’re passionate about
只要確定它是你真正熱愛的而不是假的
just make sure it’s true passion and not faked
如果我說在業餘時間
if I said I love chainsaws and carving chainsaw art
我愛鏈鋸並雕刻鏈鋸藝術
in my free time
但事實上在空閒的時候並沒有做
but I actually didn’t
那女孩也就不會看到你的閃光點了
the sparkle wouldn’t be there and the girl won’t see it
當你確實對一些事情上心
when you are actuallypassionate about something
你的女孩肯定會留意到的
your girl will notice
一個男孩做某些事時展現出的激情
there’s something infinitely sexy about a guy
使得他很迷人如訓練摩託運動
with an intense passion towards something it could be programming motorcycling
煮飯 畫畫 讀書 彈奏一個樂器或其它合你口味的愛好
cooking drawing reading playing aninstrument and anything else that suits your fancy
只需投入時間
Just put in the time
而在此過程中創造出些東西是加分點
bonus point to be create something in the process
第三個竅門 講究衛生
Tip number three, have great hygiene
第一步是迅速
okey, guys, number one tip to instantly
讓一個女孩被好聞的氣味吸引
make a girl attracted smell good
我不是說那種令你驚異的味道
I don’t even mean smell amazing
只是聞起來不錯去洗個澡
you just have to smell decent go take a shower
全身打上兩遍肥皂
or a body soap all over you twice
洗乾淨你的頭髮然後把身體擦乾用好的除臭劑把乾淨的衣服
and shampoo your hair dry yourself off apply good deodorant
放在你的套裝上
put clean clothes on in your set no need to douse yourself
用不著噴半加侖的Axe body噴霧
with half a gallon of Axe body spray
你只需要聞起來像樣
You just have to smell presentable
你可以買一些古龍水噴一處 最多兩處
you can tho by some cologne and spray one squirt two squirts max
我建議一處噴在手腕 一處噴在靠近領口的地方
I recommend one on your wrist and one near your neckline
這都會讓你身上很好聞
this is all it takes the smell great
女孩子們總是會迷上好聞的傢伙
and girls fall for great swelling guys all the time
第四個秘訣是 讓女孩子為你做事
Tip number 4, ask her to do things for you
這肯定是一條秘密竅門且可能甚至
so this is definitely a secret tip and maybe
有點操控力但當然不是任何罪惡的或消極的事
even a bit manipulative but definitely not anything evil or negative
只是讓她為你做些事情
just ask her to do something for you
這種心理作用被稱為班傑明·富蘭克林效應
there’s a psychological effect calledthe Benjamin Franklin effect
它是這樣起作用的 你讓一個女孩為你做些事情
that goes like this: you ask a girl to do something for you
她做了
she does it
而且最後她潛意識裡還會多喜歡你一點
and in the end she subconsciously likes you just a bit more
你可能會問為什麼
you might be asking why though
儘管當我們在為別人做事 但是我們大腦卻認為我們為別人做事
well when we do stuff for people our brain thinks since we’re doing something
一定因為是喜歡他們
for them we must like them
而班傑明富蘭克林使用這些技巧來對付對他的對手和政敵
now Benjamin Franklin uses techniques on his rivals and political opponents
以讓他們更加喜歡
to get them to like more
這也被喚作一致性偏差
also there’s something called theconsistency bias
在一些人為你做了幾次事情後
after someone has done something for you a couple of times
他們傾向於做的更多
they’re more likely to do more
因為他們不想看起來前後不一
just because they don’t want to look inconsistent
小貼士 請求別人幫你做一些事比如在上課時拿一支鉛筆記筆記
Tip, ask for things like picking up a pencil for notes in class
給某人一張紙 甚至安排一些小的差事
giving someone a paper or even small errands
但不要做的太誇張 否則她會感到你在利用她
but don’t overdo it though where she』ll feel like you’re using her
第五個秘訣 讓她大笑
Tip number five, make her laugh
這是一個很棒的竅門
This is a great tip
你可能認為自己幽默但是事實上每個人都可以變有趣
And you may think you’re funny but the truth is everyone can be funny
如果他們試的話就可以
if they try.
你必須要在足夠多的場合練習
You have to put yourself in enough situations
習慣做一個講冷笑話的投機分子
to get used to the opportunist of telling an unfunny joke
一直足夠到你有自信可以在周圍的人們面前講很多笑話
enough that you have the confidence to tell more jokes around people
你說的越好 你就會讓女孩越愛笑
the more you tell better you will get girls love laughing
你讓她們笑的越多 你能看到她們的社會變化越大
and the more that you can make them laugh the higher up in their social change
也能證明你思維敏銳而且幽默風趣
you will seem, it’s proved there you are intellectually strong and humorous.
這是一種理想的未來伴侶應具有的品質
which is a desirable trait and future mate
這種特質也會給你機會
also this will give you the chance
看看她的目光在哪無論她笑不笑
to see where her eyes are going whatever she laughs
也可以看到她對你究竟感不感興趣
to see if she’s interested inyou at all
第六和秘訣 成為她的朋友
Tip number six, be her friend
這是完全不一樣的概念
there’s a big difference between being her friend
是成為她的朋友還是作為朋友區間
and being friend zone
我想註明這種差異已經被證實
Also I want to note it’s been proven
而且先做一個長達數月的朋友區間
and totally acceptable to be in the friend zone for months
然後更進一步
foe months at a time and then move in
開始約會這是完全可以接受的
and start dating , so go the extra mile
所以不妨再多做一點比如做一些讓她開心的事
and do stuff that makes her smile
做一些別人不會做的事
do things that other guys wouldn’t do
就像在她的車上留小紙條
Stuffs like leave little notes in her car
用消息道早安
centre good morning text
或討論一些難題並多支持她
talking through problems and sympathize with her
事實上通過這些 你幾乎已經在和她約會了
in fact in doing these you’re practically half way already dating her
你只要和她說
you just have to tell her that
在你的計劃中 想和她一起度過餘生
you wanted for the rest of your life in your basically set right
第七個秘訣 打破接觸障礙
Tip number seven, break the touch barrier
這是一個完美的潛意識心理的碰撞
here’s a good subconscious psychological hits
在很多情況下實施起來 效果都出奇地好
that works amazingly well
碰碰她的肩膀
in many situations touch her shoulder
向她要一些東西 然後從她手裡拿走
ask her for something and grab it out of her hand
或編一些遊戲 需要和她接觸或她一起玩的那種
or make up some game that requires the touch and play with her
如石頭剪刀布
like rock-paper-scissors come up with a cool
如果實在不行的話 不如提議只是簡單握個手
handshake if you have to
主要就是讓她知道你願意
The idea is to make her know that
以非性的方式接觸她
you’re willing to touch her in a non-sexual way
因為你在她身邊時感到舒服
because you feel comfortable around her
而且希望得到好的回應
and to get a reaction
如果察覺她厭惡或害怕這種接觸
if she seems disgusted or scared
就不要再碰她了
don’t touch her any more
第八個秘訣 告訴她你的秘密
Number eight, tell her secrets
關於你私事的一些真正的秘密
tell real secret about you something personal
不是許多人知道的秘密
that not very many people know
這將會打開信任的大門
this will open the door for trust
因為你告訴她越多關於你的事情
and as you tell her more things about you
她就越會注意到你信任她
she will notice that you trust her
而且反過來她也會更加信任你
and in turn she will trust you more
從心理學上講 我們會最先喜歡和信任
psychologically we like and trust people
先相信我們的人
who trust us first
因為我們對陌生人天生謹慎 也不會相信他們
because we have a natural instinct to be wary of new people and not to trust them
所以當你證明了你信任她她就會開始以同樣的方式回應
So when you prove that you trust her she will start to reciprocate in the same fashion
我建議告訴她一些 你可以說的秘密
And I recommend telling her secrets
比如那種可以讓其他人知道的秘密
that you』d be okay with, if other people knew
以防她洩密
just in case she tell someone
但是要確保它們是本人的而且被認為是一個秘密
but make sure their personal and make sure they would be be considered a secret
加分項 如果有些事
Bonus points, if they’re things
稍微有點令人尷尬
that are slightly embarrassing
比如你有11個腳趾
something like you have 11 toes
或你正為川普投票這些秘密應該謹慎提及
or you’re voting for Trump should do fine
第九個秘訣 給她你全部的注意力
Tip number nine, give her all of your attention in a world
你的注意力可以在任何地方
where your attention can go anywhere
但是它卻是你可以給一個女孩最珍貴的東西
It’s one of the most valuable things you can give a girl
如果你想她明白
if you want her
你不只是關注她幾分鐘而已
pay attention to her and not just for a couple minutes
就要學會在她和你說話時看著她的眼睛
look her in the eyes when she’s talking to you
並在心裡全部記下她正在說的話
and make mental note of all the up she’s talking about
如果你能在之後的對話中提到這些
if you can mention it in later conversations
她就會感受到你的不同之處並且開始享受你的存在
so feel special and start to enjoy your presence
這建議對誰都有效
this works with anyone
最後一個秘訣 是提高你的自信
the last tip is to beef up your confidence game
我接下來會製作一個視頻這個視頻會介紹一些另人驚奇的秘訣
I』ll be making a video soon on some amazing secret tips that you can do each day
你可以每天都做的提高自信的遊戲
to boost your confidence game
這涉及到堅持自我意識
this is a lot to do with being self-aware
以及明白什麼使你尷尬不安
and knowing what make you awkward and insecure
然後全力以赴提高自己 以成為
ans work on yourself and improving this to become
更使人穩當自信的存在
more secure and confident who you are asa person
這是我可以給你的最好建議
the best general advice I can give you
去變得更自信和贏取女孩芳心需要有規律的鍛鍊
to become more confident and make a girl like you is to work out regularly
如果你在上初中或高中
If you’re in middle school or high school
我建議一周三天 鍛鍊手臂 腿 核心功能或肺部力量
I suggest three days a week arms legs and core / cardio now near the end
在高中快結束和大學期間
of high school and during college
你可以提前安排或增加練習量
you can get into more advanced schedule and supplements
我將會去準備這樣的材料和話題然後製作以後的視頻
and I might go into that kind of stuff and topics and future videos
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