書名：《BE THE ONE FOR KIDS》
作者：RYAN SHEEHY (美國)
譯者：小花生的花
聲明：此翻譯僅作個人學習英語之用，與網友共享，不可作其他商業用途。
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這是副校長面試的最後一輪。我被召進了董事會，那裡坐著兩位董事，三位校長，還有人力資源副總監。
情景表演立刻開始。一位氣急敗壞的家長（向學校）提出諸多要求；據說是被我激怒了—因為學生打架問題，我剛停了他們孩子的學；現在我進入了解決問題的模式：平息怒火，構建融洽。
情景表演結束，面試提問開始；整個過程大約持續了一個小時。
面試結束後我就回家了。是的，我正在面試當地一所高中的副校長職位。
在我到家之前，人力資源部助理主管就打來電話說，第二天早上我會面見校長和校董會。我欣喜若狂，那晚我幾乎徹夜難眠。
面試的那一刻終於來了！
我走進一個大房間，房間的一邊擺了一張大桌子，另一邊放著幾張沙發和椅子。校長和學校董事會開始提問。
面試進行到一半時，校長停了下來，問他們是否可以對我坦誠相見。我回答說，「當然。」
於是他開門見山地說，「萊恩（Ryan），老實講，你是體育老師。通常我不認為體育教師可以擔任教學領導。」
我不敢苟同，便舉例反駁，但他們的回答讓我瞠目結舌。
面試結束，我回到家裡。結果如何，我大概也是茶壺裡煮餃子—心裡有數，但那種被否定的感覺，揮之不去。
當天晚些時候，我接到電話說這個職位已經花落別人家了。
對此結果我並不覺意外，卻不能釋懷。很難過。我已經做了那麼多的事情告訴大家我是一個教學領導者；但校長仍然覺得我不是，只因我所教的科目。
我知道我必須做點兒什麼了。
雖然我得到了否定的答案，但我不會停止我的夢想。
我下定決心，如果哪個校區的領導覺得某些學科的老師不能成為教學帶頭人，那麼，我也不想在那種環境下工作。
我想在這樣一個地方工作：這個地方重視他們所有的孩子和員工，而不管他們的背景如何。
我決定離開這個校區，在一個重視他們所有人的地區擔任行政職務。
不忘初心，方得始終。
我希望你也能總記得：你是誰，你是如何走到今天的；且，永遠不要對你的夢想說「不」。
1請描述一次你拒絕接受「否定」的時候。
2這對你和學生的互動有什麼影響？當你不能或不想對一個學生說「是」的時候，你會怎麼處理？
原文如下：
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10 BE THE ONE WHO WILL NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER
It was the final round of a vice principal interview. l got called into the boardroom where there were two directors, three principals, and the assistant superintendent of human resources. The role playing began immediately. An extremely upset parent demanded many things. I had just suspended their child for fighting and supposedly it was provoked. I went into problem solving mode and calmed the parent down and began to build rapport. The role play came to an end, and the interview questions began. The interview lasted about an hour, then I headed home. I was interviewing for a vice principal position of a local high school.
Before I made it home, the assistant superintendent of human resources called and let me know that I would be meeting with the superintendent and the cabinet the next morning. I was over the moon excited, and I could barely sleep that night. The interview came, and I walked into a large room that had a large desk on one side, and on the other side were a few couches and chairs. The superintendent and the cabinet began their questioning. About halfway through the interview, the superintend paused and asked if they could be honest with me. I responded, "Of course." He started with 「 Ryan, I’m going to be honest. You are a physical education teacher. And I don’t view PE teachers as instructional leaders." I made my case against it, but I was definitely shocked at what they had said. The interview wrapped up, and I headed home. I couldn't shake the feeling of having been treated like that.
Later that night, I got the call that the position had gone to someone else. Although it didn’t surprise me, I still was not happy. It hurt. I had done so many different things to show everyone l was an instructional leader, and still the superintendent felt that because of the subject I taught, I was not an instructional leader.
I knew I had to do something different. I was given the answer of no, but I was not going to stop short of my dreams. I decided that if the leader of that district felt certain subject matter teachers could not be instructional leaders, then I didn't want to work in that environment. I wanted to work in a place that valued all their kids and all their staff, no matter their background. I decided to leave the district and take an administrator position in a district that valued all their people.
I challenge you to remember who you are and how you become who you are-and never take no for an answer on your dreams.
THINGS TO CONSIDER AND TWEET
1. Describe a time when you refused to take no for an answer.
2. How did that affect your interaction with students? When you can't or don't want to say yes to a student, how do you handle it?