Family love is one of the most valuable gifts in life and one that you cannot buy anywhere. A good family accepts you inside and out, no matter how you look or what you do. Think about a time when you were broke and your family helped you get back on your feet, a time when you were down and they cheered you up, and when you were sick and you found relief in the arms of your loved ones. Your life is probably full of such small and big happenings that you could be grateful for.
脈脈親情是生命賦予我們最寶貴的禮物之一，並且這是一種你在別處無法買到的禮物。愛你的家人接納你的外在與內在，無論你長得如何或者你做了什麼。仔細想想，當你失敗時，是你的家人幫助你重拾信心；當你沮喪時，是你的家人振奮了你的精神；當你為病所苦時，是你愛的人幫你減輕痛苦。你的生命中或許充滿了像這樣或大或小的值得你感激的事件。
Everyone needs such support in life.
Just as a happy and harmonizing family life can be a good support in almost all aspects of life, a sour relationship can be painful.
正如快樂和諧的家庭生活可以為生活的方方面面提供支持，不融洽的關係卻是痛苦的。
Whether you have a good relationship with your family, or not, depends on you: as always 「two hands are needed to clap.」 So if you find your relationship with your family is broken, consider the kind of thoughts and emotions you were sending out to them all this while. Give someone love and he or she will bloom!
與家人是否相處融洽取決於你自己：正如諺語所說「孤掌難鳴」。因此，如果你發現你與家人的關係破裂了，仔細回想這陣子你對她們所傳遞的思想和情感是否恰當。給予別人愛時，對方會樂開花。
It is always possible to mend a broken relationship; and it is better now than never. So start to work on your relationships before it becomes too late! Here are five ways to become closer to your family:
要修復已破裂的關係是有可能的，並且立馬行動比仍舊執迷不悟要好得多。因此，在這些關係變得無法挽回前，開始經營它們吧！以下是令你與家人更加親近的五種方式：
Increase Your LoveYou』ve probably heard the song lyrics, 「A house is not a home, when there’s no one there to hold!」
你可能聽過這個歌詞：「當房子裡沒有你可以擁抱的人時，這個房子便不像一個家！」
What changes a house into a home is, in fact, love; true love. A true love is not selfish and does not take revenge if it does not receive love in return. True love gives without expectation.
事實上，是愛或者說是真愛把房子變得像個家。真愛是無私的，它不會因沒有得到愛的回報而實行報復，真愛不計回報。
「Where there is love there is life.」 – Mahatma Gandhi
Love strengthens the connection, while anger tears it apart.
With love also comes sacrifice. In a close relationship there will definitely be a lot of arguments, disharmony and disagreements. You cannot expect family life to be always be 「peace, love and harmony.」 As the connection gets closer, frictions get more pronounced!
愛必將帶來犧牲。密切的關係中必定存在許多的爭吵、不和諧以及分歧。你無法確保家庭生活總是「和平的、充滿愛的以及和諧的。」隨著關係的密切，摩擦必然也變得愈加明顯！
Think realistically. No one is perfect. No matter how sweet and wonderful a person is, there will always be shortcomings. Roses always come with thorns!
現實地思考問題，世上無完人。無論那個人是多麼的甜美與完美，總會存在著缺點和不足，正如玫瑰總是帶刺的一樣。
If you accept the fact that everyone is bound to make mistakes, it will be easier to accept and love your family as they are.
如果你接受每個人都可能犯錯這一現實的話，你會更易於接受這些錯誤並且愛你的家人們。
「In marriage you love a lot and forgive a lot. Love is the lubricant!」 – Master Choa Kok Sui
「在婚姻裡，你愛很多，也原諒很多，其中愛便是潤滑劑！」——蔡國水大師
Give FreedomIt doesn’t matter if you are a mother, a father, a husband or a wife, whatever position you have in a family, you need to give freedom to the other members of it.
無論你是一位母親或者一位父親，是丈夫或者妻子，無論你在家是處於什麼位置，你都需要給予家庭的其它成員足夠的自由。
No one likes to be ruled all the time. Freedom is one of the most basic needs of humanity and one of the greatest gifts in life. Growth is basically the result of having freedom, while too much control brings, anger, frustration and disappointment.
沒有人願意一直被統治。自由是人性的最基本的需求之一，同時也是生活最大的饋贈之一。成長是基於擁有自由的結果，然而太多的控制帶來將會是憤怒、沮喪以及失望。
Work on your trust. With trust comes freedom.
「Friendship—my definition—is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don’t have trust, the friendship will crumble.」 – Stieg Larsson
「我認為友誼基於兩點——尊重與信任。兩者必須同在，並且互相作用。你可以尊重某人，但是如果你不信任對方，友誼也會破碎。」——史迪格·拉森
With trust comes openness.
Over-possessiveness happens when we are afraid that by giving enough freedom, the person will leave or will commit a mistake. In fact, over-controlling often chases people away. It also obstructs the talents and passions of the other person, preventing them from blooming. If you are a parent, you need to give enough freedom to your children to allow them to follow their dreams.
當我們擔心由於給予了太多的自由那個人會離開或者犯錯時，過度的佔有欲便隨之而生。事實上，過度的管制往往使彼此離得更遠。這也會阻礙另一方的才能和熱情，阻斷了快樂之花。如果你為人父母，你該給與孩子足夠的自由去追尋他們的夢想。
Although giving freedom is not guaranteed to keep a partner or keep a child from committing a mistake, it is necessary to build a good foundation for a respectful family relationship.
儘管給予自由並不能保證伴侶或者保證孩子不犯錯，這卻是建立受尊敬的家庭關係的必須。
Learn to Forgive「Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.」 – Martin Luther King
「寬容不是偶爾的行為,這它是一個不變的態度。」——馬丁·路德·金
「Inner Forgiveness is therapeutic. If you do not Forgive, you cannot be Internally Healed. Forgiving heals the soul!」 – Master Choa Kok Sui
「內在的寬容是治療師，如果你不試著寬容，你的內在將不能得到治療。寬容拯救靈魂！」——蔡國水大師
In every relationship, forgiveness is one of the most fundamental factors that affects the state and durability of a relationship. Forgiveness is not a matter of who is right or who is wrong, it is a matter of doing the right thing!
在每一關係中，寬容是影響這個關係的狀態和持久性的最基本的因素。寬容不是追究誰對誰錯，它的關鍵在於做對的事！
Although you are one family, there will always be differences in personalities and preferences between family members, and because of these differences, disagreements happen. Therefore, it’s not wise to react straight away, to jump to conclusions and start an argument. When disagreements happen, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and first try to look at the situation from his or her point of view. This gives you a better understanding and the ability to forgive more easily.
儘管你們是一家人，家庭成員間的性格和喜好必然有所不同，而且正因為這些不同，分歧便由之而生。因此，立刻反應以下定論或者開始爭吵都是不明智之舉。當分歧產生時，首先要換位思考，試著從對方的立場去思考問題。這樣你能夠更好地理解並更易於寬容他人。
Then give time for the situation to calm down before you talk about your views and potential solutions to problems. Remember that in the midst of an emotional outburst or an argument, your explanation won’t work. Wait for the right time.
然後，在談論自己的觀點或者問題潛在的解決方案之前，給自己時間冷靜下來。記住，在情感爆發或者爭吵期間，你的解釋根本毫無作用，你該等待合適時機。
「When you forgive, you in no way change the past—but you sure do change the future.」 – Bernard Meltzer
「當你寬容他人時,你無法改變過去——但你確實在改變未來。」——伯納德•邁爾策
Forgiveness not only helps you improve the status of your relationship, but also keeps you from boiling away inside. In a relationship problems happen, and problems are a means of helping us get stronger and more compassionate. If you keep on thinking about the problems and unpleasant events of your life, you prevent yourself from having a better future. Forgive, forget and learn the lesson!
寬容他人不僅幫助你提升你們的關係，也防止了你內在的爆發。一段關係中時常存在問題，然而這些問題卻是幫助我們變得強大而富有同情心的一個方式。如果你老是想著生活中的那些問題和種種不愉快，你無疑阻斷了自己追求更美好未來的道路。寬容，遺忘並以此為經驗教訓！
「The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.」 – Mahatma Gandhi
「弱者永遠無法寬容他人，寬容是強者的天賦。」——聖雄·甘地
Look For Solutions尋求解決方案Problems are a part of life. They come and go.
Family life is not a battlefield. Do not focus on problems, instead focus on the solutions.
家庭生活不是戰場，不要聚焦於這些問題，相反，要聚焦於尋找解決方案。
Although we as adults are all expected to be responsible for our actions, it still feels safer and more comfortable for some to put the blame on others. This is one of the major problems that can seriously affect a family as no one likes to be blamed all the time. After all, problems happen to make us grow and this comes about by learning from our mistakes.
儘管我們成年人總是期待自己為自己的行為負責，降責於他人卻往往使我們更具安全感和舒適感。這是嚴重影響家庭關係的主要問題，因為沒有人喜歡一直被責怪。總的來說，問題的產生讓我們在認識到自己的錯誤時學會了成長。
Stop the blame game, be responsible for your actions and look for resolution. This is one of the fastest ways to bring you closer to your family.
不要再責備他人了，試著為自己的行為負責並且尋求解決方案吧。這是讓你和家人更加親近的捷徑之一。
Count Every Moment銘記每一刻One of the most clichéd problems in family life is the taking of loved ones for granted. As we always have our family around no matter how we act, we tend to neglect them sometimes. The minute we realize their value, it is often already too late.
最陳詞濫調的家庭問題是對愛的人不以為然。因為無論我們表現如何，家人總是在身邊，我們往往有時會忽視她們。每當我們意識到她們的可貴時，往往都已經太遲了。
Don’t fall into this trap!
「In all affairs it’s a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted.」 – Bertrand Russell
「在所有關係中，對於你長期忽略的事畫個問號是件好事。」——伯特蘭·羅素
In order to keep love and harmony active among our family, it is highly important to show that we care. Spending quality time with family members is one of the factors that can nourish and strengthen our family connections. Try to have fun on a regular basis. Go out together, talk, play, laugh and have fun.
為了讓愛和和諧充滿我們的家，向大家展示你的關心至關重要。和家人度過美好的時光是豐富和增強家庭關係的要素之一。試著定期出去遊玩，一起外出，聊天，玩，笑以及開心玩耍。
Every moment matters! Make the best out of it before its too late!
每一刻都至關重要！在關係無法挽回之前讓我們竭盡所能努力去改變吧！