如何處理情感依賴？
Finding yourself in an emotional loop that seems to be no way of getting out of? Read on as Sonakshi Sinha asks Sadhguru the truth about emotional attachments.
發現自己陷入了似乎無法擺脫的情緒循環?繼續讀Sonakshi Sinha向Sadhguru詢問情感依賴的真相!
Sonakshi Sinha: Dearest Sadhguru ji, I’m a very emotional person, and I often find it very difficult to emotionally detach myself from a situation that I know is not good for me. I can see this is not going somewhere where I want it to go, but it is very difficult to divert my mind and my emotions away from that. I』ll keep thinking about it and dwelling on it, which is something that I don’t want to do. How do you think I can handle that situation?
Sonakshi Sinha: 親愛的薩古魯，我是一個非常情緒化的人，我經常發現我很難感性地脫離出某種情境，即使我明知這對我無益。我知道這不是我想要的方向，但是我很難轉移我的注意力和情緒。我會繼續思考這個問題，千思萬想。這完全是我不想做的。你認為我應該怎樣處理這種情況?
Sadhguru: There is a lot of talk about the head and the heart business. There is no such distinction in the real sense because the way you think is the way you feel. The way you feel is the way you think.
薩古魯：有很多關於頭腦和心靈的討論。真正意義上沒有這樣的區別，因為你的思維方式就是你的感覺。你的感覺就是你的思維方式。
Today, largely because of the type of education, for most people, their thoughts run ahead of their emotions. But there is still a sizeable percentage of people for whom their emotions run ahead of their thought.
今天，很大程度上由於教育方式，對大多數人來說，他們的思想跑在情緒前面。但仍有相當大比例的人，他們的情緒跑在了思想的前面。
For different people, different things run first. Today, largely because of the type of education, for most people, their thoughts run ahead of their emotions. But there is still a sizeable percentage of people for whom their emotions run ahead of their thought. Nowadays, those people whose emotions run ahead of their thought are made to feel stupid because they do not understand the power and the intelligence of emotion, though people are starting to talk about emotional quotient.
對不同的人來說，思維和情緒的運作先後有所不同。今天，很大程度上由於教育方式，對大多數人來說，他們的思想跑在情緒前面。但仍有相當大比例的人，他們的情緒跑在了思想的前面。如今，那些情緒超前於思想的人被誤導地自認為很愚蠢，因為他們不了解情緒和智力的力量。儘管人們正在開始談論情商。
Turnaround Time
時間周轉
Now, what Sonakshi is asking is, there are situations that you don’t wish to be in but the emotions are tangled up, so thought keeps going there and unknowingly you keep walking in that direction.
Sonakshi的問題是，有些情況下你不想陷入其中，但情緒卻糾結在一起 思想一直在運轉，不知不覺地就朝那個方向一直走下去了。
It is just that thought is agile, it can turn around fast. But emotion is sappy. It takes some time to turn around.
只是思想很敏捷，它可以快速地扭轉方向。但情緒是多愁善感的。扭轉方向需要一些時間。
It is just that thought is agile, it can turn around fast. But emotion is sappy. It takes some time to turn around. Today you can think, 「Oh! This person is the most wonderful person.」 Tomorrow, if that person does something that you don’t like, your thought will immediately say, 「She’s no good.」 But emotion is not that agile. If my emotions have gone ahead with this person, they cannot turn around so quickly. In the meantime, you struggle.
只是思想很敏捷，它可以快速地扭轉方向。但情緒是多愁善感的。扭轉方向需要一些時間。今天你可能認為，「哦，這個人非常棒。明天，如果他做了你不喜歡的事情，你的想法會立刻說:「他不好。」 但情感並不那麼敏捷。如果我對這個人已經有情感，它們就不能這麼快的轉變。於是，你就糾結了。
Monkeys on the Mind
頭腦中的猴子
What do you do about this? Don’t try to control your emotions or thoughts because the very nature of your mind is such that 「I don’t want to think about this person」 means that’s the only person I’m going to think about for the rest of my life.
那怎麼辦? 不要試圖控制你的情緒或想法，因為你的思維本質是這樣的: 「我不想繼續去想這個人」，卻意味著這是我下半輩子唯一要想的人。
In this mind, you don’t have subtraction and division, you only have addition and multiplication.
在這個思維裡，你沒有減法和除法，你只有加法和乘法。
This is the proverbial monkey story. If we tell you, 「Don’t think about monkeys for the next five seconds」, can you not think? Only monkeys! Because this is the nature of your mind. If you say 「I do not want something」, only that will happen.
這就是眾所周知的猴子故事。如果我們告訴你，「接下來五秒鐘不要想猴子」，你能不去想嗎? 你只會想猴子! 因為這是你思維的本質。如果你說「我不想要什麼」，就只有「什麼」會發生。
When compulsive thoughts and emotions come, the first and foremost thing that you do is, you simply see them for what they are – you don’t try to resist them. The moment you resist, they will multiply.
當強迫性的想法和情緒到來時，你首先要做的就是，你只要看到他們的本來面目—你不要試圖抵制它們。當你抵抗的時候，阻力只會增加。
In this mind, you don’t have subtraction and division, you only have addition and multiplication. If I say, 「I don’t want this emotion,」 it will add – one will become two. If you say, 「Oh my god! It’s coming again, I don’t want it,」 it will multiply by hundred. This is the nature of your mind. In this mind, you cannot forcefully remove anything.
在這個思維中，沒有減法和除法，只有加法和乘法。如果我說，「我不想要這種情緒」，它只會增加, 一個會變成兩個。如果你說，「噢，我的上帝！它又來了，我不想要它，它會以百翻倍。這是你思維的本質。在這個思維中，你不能強行刪除任何東西。
Distance From Data
和數據保持距離
What you need to do is understand that thought and emotion are just a recycle of the data that is already there – something that you remember. It is just that memory is a little smelly, so it keeps coming. You just need a little distance from that.
你需要理解的是思想和情緒只是對已經存在的數據的循環使用，一些你記得的東西。只是記憶有點發臭，而且它不斷地湧現。你只需要和它保持一點距離。
Suppose you were on your way to the airport and you got stuck in a traffic jam. How much anxiety and struggle you would have! Then somehow, you got to the airport and got into the flight and took off. From up there, when you look down, how nice the traffic jam looks! This is simply because there is a little distance. It is still the same traffic jam but because there is a distance, suddenly there is nothing to it.
假設你在去機場的路上遇到了交通堵塞。你會感到這是多麼焦慮和糾結的事情! 然後，不知怎地，你到了機場，上了飛機，起飛了。從上面往下看，交通堵塞的樣子看起來多好啊! 這是因為有一點距離。仍然是同樣的交通堵塞，但因為有一段距離，突然就沒什麼大不了了。
Similarly with your thought and emotion, with a little bit of practice, you can create a little distance from your physiological processes and your psychological processes. But if you try to handle individual thought and emotion, they will multiply thousand-fold.
同樣的，你的思想和情緒，只要稍加練習，你就能在你和你的生理處過程以及心理過程之間製造一個小小的距離。但如果你試圖處理個人思想和情感，它們會成倍增長。
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