如今，一個普遍存在的現象是，父母為孩子做很多決定，即使是對他們生活中最關鍵的問題，如教育、工作甚至婚姻，都要做很多決定。
Nowadays, a wide-spread phenomenon occur frequently that parents make a lot of decisions for their children, even for most critical issues of their life, such aseducation, work or even marriage.
儘管許多父母把孩子視為掌上明珠，但他們對如何最好地處理與孩子的關係缺乏足夠的知識。
Thoughmany parents regard their children as the apple of their eye, they have no enough knowledge how to best handle the relationship with their children.
我們可以找到幾個原因來解釋上述現象。
We may find severalreasons to explain this phenomenon above.
首先，父母，以他們以前的生活經驗，總是認為他們能夠做出比青少年更好的決定。
First of all, parents, with their former life experience, always think that they are able to make a better decision than teenagers do.
其次，他們過於關注家裡的獨生子女，而不關心孩子的感受。更重要的是，他們斷言實現他們未實現的夢想的唯一途徑就是讓他們的孩子做他們想做的事情。
Next, they pay too much attention to their only child in the family without caring for their children’s feeling. What’s more, they assert the only way to realize their unfulfilled dreamsis letting their children do things that they want them to.
如何解決如此嚴重的問題？
How to solve such serious problems?
首先，父母應該在兒童教育方面做出一些戰略性的改變。他們應該有意識地培養孩子獨立思考的能力。他們應該有意識地培養孩子獨立思考的能力。
Tobegin with, parents should adapt some strategic changes in children education. They should consciously develop their children’s capabilities to think on their own.
此外，孩子們應該獨立應對遇到的困難，也可以在關鍵時刻尋求父母的必要指導。積極的親子關係培養了自主性、好奇心、自尊和更好的決策能力。
In addition, children should cope with the difficulties they encounter independently and may also search for parents』 necessary guide only at critical moments. Positive parent-child bonds fosterautonomy, curiosity, self-esteem and better decision-making skills.
所以，讓我們採取行動改善親子關係，以免為時已晚。
So let’s take actions to improve parent-child relationship before it’s too late.#親子#