Sadhguru answers a question on whether and how casual relationships without emotional involvement can affect us.
薩古魯回答了關於缺乏感情的性夥伴關係是否以及如何影響我們的問題。
Questioner: So another topic that is like very sensitive but, it’s not talked about as much is casual relationships that exist in this nice age group that we’re in (Few laugh). So, yeah I’m just going to say good things about us. So, people engage in physical relationships today and what they lack is a lot of emotions and we want to know if it’s, it’s opinion…I mean your opinion on it, and whether people do it by choice, is it healthy, is it, you know, what to make of it?
提問者：另一個非常敏感，卻不怎麼被談論的話題是，我們在這個美好年齡發生的性夥伴關係（笑聲）。我只是想為我們說點好話。如今人們發生肉體關係卻不投入太多的情感，我們想要知道它的看法……我是說你對這個問題的看法，人們是否有選擇地做這件事，這麼做健康麼？您怎麼看待這個問題？
Sadhguru: Can I tell you a joke?
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：我可以講個笑話嗎？
Questioner: Yes, I like jokes, yeah, yeah (Few laugh).
提問者：當然，我很喜歡笑話，是的（笑）。
Sadhguru: There was one Mrs. Bhatia, nobody Bhatias (Laughter)? I could change the name (Few laugh). There was one Mrs. Bhatia, who was having her 50th wedding anniversary. They had a wedding anniversary and the next day she filed for divorce. The judge saw the divorce petition. He was also a good family friend so he called her and he said, 「Why you want to divorce your husband? He’s such a sweet little thing (Few laugh). Why do you want to divorce him? On what grounds you want to divorce him?」 She said 「He has not been faithful to me, he’s been cheating me.」 「How do you come to this conclusion, just yesterday you had your 50th wedding anniversary, you were fine yesterday, how do you conclude this?」 「I got little nostalgic and started flipping through the photo album, then I saw none of my five children resemble him (Laughter).」
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：有一位巴蒂亞夫人——這裡沒有人叫巴蒂亞吧（笑聲）？我可以換個名字（笑）。曾經有一位巴蒂亞夫人，在過她50周年的結婚紀念日。他們慶祝了結婚紀念日，但是第二天她申請離婚。法官看到離婚申請書，他同時也是他們家的好朋友，於是給她打了電話，他問道：「你為什麼想跟丈夫離婚？他是一個那麼可愛的小男人（笑聲）。為什麼你想要跟他離婚呢？你要跟他離婚的理由是什麼？」她說：「他對我不忠，他一直在背叛我。」「你是如何得出這個結論的？你們昨天剛慶祝了結婚50周年紀念日，昨天你還好好的，你是如何得出結論的？」「我有點懷舊，於是開始翻看相冊，然後我發現，我的五個孩子沒有一個長得像他（笑聲）。」
So (Laughs)… see right now, do you remember how your great, great, great, great, great grandmother ten generations ago looked like? You don’t! But her nose is sitting on your face right now. Your body remembers, yes or no?
所以（笑）……現在你記得你的曾曾曾曾曾祖母十代前長什麼樣嗎？你不記得！但是她的鼻子長在你的臉上。你的身體記得，是不是？
Participant: Yes.
參與者：是的。
Sadhguru: Your body remembers even the skin tone of your forefathers a million years ago, it still remembers, not forgotten. So, what you’re calling as my body is an enormous amount of memory, isn’t it? What you carry in your brain as memory is minuscule, what you carry in your body – there is evolutionary memory, there is genetic memory, there is karmic memory, there are articulate and inarticulate levels of memory, there is so much memory.
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：你的身體甚至記得你一百萬年前祖先的膚色。它一直記得，沒有忘記。所以，你所說的身體是大量的記憶，不是嗎？你頭腦的記憶是微不足道的，你身體帶有——進化記憶、遺傳記憶、業力記憶，有說得清說不清的記憶，有非常多的記憶。
You know…You think you know how to walk right now, please understand only because your body has built up that memory, if your body forgets, you won’t be able to walk. So the amount of memory for every simple thing that you do, you know what to eat, what not to eat, how to eat, you must put it in your mouth not in your ears. This may look funny, but you would not know if you don’t remember.
你知道……你以為你現在知道怎麼走路，但請你明白這只是因為你的身體已經形成那種記憶。如果你的身體忘記了，你就不會走路了。你所做的每個簡單事情所需要的記憶量——你知道吃什麼，不吃什麼，怎麼吃——你必須把食物放進你的嘴巴，而不是你的耳朵。這或許看上去很滑稽，但是如果你不記得，你就不知道該怎麼做。
So your body is a repository of tremendous amount of memory and it’s picking up all the time. If you walk from here to here (Gestures) there maybe fifty different kinds of mild smells, you may not consciously notice but the body is picking it up and it recognizes. All the time it’s recognizing, that’s how you know what is good smell, what is bad smell, this is this smell, that is…you recognize the different aspects of sound, smell, this, that because constant recognition is happening. So, this body memory, traditionally in this culture, we called this as Runanubandha. That means physical memory that you build. You can either consciously build your physical memory, or you can simply take in wild amounts of memory and go through lots of physical confusion.
所以你的身體是儲存著海量記憶的倉庫，並且它一直在產生新的記憶。如果你從這兒走到這兒，（手勢）可能會有50種不同的淡淡的氣味。你可能沒有注意到，但是你的身體「拾起」這些氣味然後識別。它一直都在識別，這樣，你才能知道什麼氣味好聞，什麼氣味不好聞，這個是這樣的氣味，那個……你能識別出聲音、氣味、這個或那個的不同方面，是因為識別一直在進行。這種身體記憶，在這個文化傳統中，我們稱之為Runanubandha，它的意思是你所產生的身體記憶。你要麼有意識地形成你的身體記憶，或者你可以簡單地獲取大量記憶，然後給身體帶來很多困惑。
So, wherever there is impact…I don’t know if you still have these things, maybe in your generation is gone, but still there will be people in Bangalore City, if you ask them to… if you try to give them salt, they won’t take it, they』ll say, 「Keep it there.」 Hmm? If you try to give them sesame seeds, they will say, 「Please, keep it there,」 because they have recognized many substances which can easily carry your memory and it will become mine if I take it.
所以，無論哪裡都會有影響……我不知道你們是否還保留這樣的傳統，也許在你們這一代已經沒有了，但是在班加羅爾依然會有這樣的人，如果你讓他們……如果你想給他們鹽，他們不會接，他們會說：「放在那兒吧。」嗯？如果你想給他們芝麻，他們會說：「請放在那兒吧。」因為他們認識到許多物質是可以輕易地帶著你的記憶的，如果我接過來，它就會變成我的記憶。
So, I don’t want to take in memory. This is the reason why generally in this culture, touching each other, shaking hands, these things are avoided. We touch our own two hands and do Namaskaram, because we don’t want to go on picking up memory. Because if I as much as touch this, this memory, it remembers. You try this with four of your friends, you touch their hands. Don’t try to consciously remember. Every day touch their hands, forget about it. Tomorrow, if that person comes and touches you, you know it’s this hand, isn’t it?
所以，我不想接受記憶，這也是為什麼，在這個文化中，人們通常會避免觸碰彼此或者握手。我們會雙手合掌行合十禮，因為我們不想一直接收記憶。因為如果我就這樣觸碰，身體就有了這個記憶。你和你的四個朋友試一下，你觸碰他們的手，不要刻意記住，每天去觸碰，然後就忘掉，明天，如果那個人過來觸碰你，你會知道是這個人的手，不是嗎？
So, the body remembers, it’s not the mind. The physical body remembers; this is called as Runanubandha. When there is a sexual interaction, or there is any kind of intimacy which involves thought, emotion and body, the amount of memory that is left in your system is very big. It is from this context, they said, 「You must keep this as simple as possible.」 There are other aspects where, in certain tantric process and all they are involving, they are preparing themselves for years to distance themselves from the body in such a way, that the body doesn’t pick up anything from anywhere. This is being done like a sadhana, not as sexual promiscuity.
所以，身體記得，不是頭腦。肉體記得；這種記憶被叫作Runanubandha。當發生性關係，或者有任何涉及思想、情緒、身體的親密行為時，留在你身體系統的記憶量是非常大的。正是基於這個背景，他們說：「你必須讓這個儘可能保持簡單。」此外，他們在修行某些密法時，要準備好多年，來讓自己能夠跟身體保持距離，這樣身體就不會從任何地方獲得任何記憶。這是作為一項靈性練習進行的，而不是亂性。
So, the question is not of morality, the question is of what is it that you want to do with yourself in your life. If you want to be in such a way that in your life, your inner intelligence will be the most dominant thing in your life, not your physical body, then you must keep the body’s memory as simple as possible. This is why simple types of food. You know, people go into very simple kind of food, not complicated. Even now, I eat one meal a day, and I eat only one item in the meal, I won’t eat ten. I may eat all of those things another day, but today I』ll eat only one item because it makes a huge…Just experiment and see, don’t go by what I’m saying. Just experiment and see especially when your examination time comes, eat simple food and see what a difference it makes, for your intelligence how it functions, how alert you are, everything.
所以，問題不在於道德，問題在於你想擁有什麼樣的生活。如果你想的是，在你的生活中，你的內在智慧成為你生命的主導因素，而不是你的肉體，那麼，你必須儘量保持身體記憶的簡單，這也是為什麼要吃得簡單，你知道，有人選擇非常簡單的食物，而不是複雜的。即便是現在，我每天吃一餐，而且我一餐只吃一種食物，我不會吃十種。我可能會在其它的日子吃這些食物，但是今天我只會吃其中的一種，因為這會產生巨大的……去實驗下看看，不要只是相信我說的，去實驗一下，尤其是在你要考試的時候，吃簡單的食物，然後看看會有什麼不同，對你的智力來說，它是如何作用的？你的機敏程度如何？等等。
So, what is it that you are trying to build yourself to? Do you want to build yourself to be a sexual supernova or (Laughter)…No, I’m saying, some people may have that intention. That’s up to them. But what is it that you want to do with your life, is something that you must decide. If you have decided that, it’s very, very important that you don’t unconsciously pick up enormous amount of memory because this will lead to…later on you will see, it』ll become very difficult to remain peaceful and joyful in your life. No matter what good things may be happening, simply because there is confusing memories in the system. When something else of similar nature comes, the body goes into a turmoil of confusion. It may not translate into your mind. Just physically, it will go on, so it's a choice that one has to make. It’s not a question of morality, it is a question of living sensibly (Applause).
所以，你想將自己打造成什麼樣呢？你是想把自己打造成一個性愛超人還是……（笑）不，我是說，有些人可能有那樣的意圖，這取決於他們。但是你想要在你的生命裡做些什麼，是你必須決定的。如果你做了決定，非常非常重要的是，你不要在不經意間獲得大量的記憶，因為這會導致……以後你會發現，你在生活中保持平靜和喜悅會變得非常困難，無論發生了什麼好事，僅僅是因為身體系統裡有混亂的記憶。當其它類似性質的事物靠近時，身體就會亂作一團，它可能不會反映在你的頭腦中，但是在身體層面，它會持續發生。所以這是一個人需要做出的選擇，這不是一個道德問題，這是一個明智生活的問題（掌聲）。
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